Sometimes We Need To Be Heard Not Advised
In my most vulnerable moments, When I feel that I cannot handle things on my own, I try to approach someone I trust the most.
In the middle of the conversation, there is a moment, when I am about to pour my heart to the person by revealing what’s going on inside me, but before I can even finish, they interrupt my emotions with advice. Suddenly, the moment of vulnerability is swept away by a wave of suggestions.
In these moments, I often find myself thinking, “Sometimes we just need to be heard not advised”
Then I just remain silent because I can not make them understand that no matter how well-meaning their advice is, it isn’t always what I need.
It’s not like they don’t care for me, they do. Advice is a form of care a way for others to show that they want to help solve our problems.
But truly listening is allowing someone to fully express themselves without the pressure of immediate fixes.
Conversation about struggles is like someone revealing a piece of their inner world. It’s not always a call for a solution, it’s a need to be heard and understood.
Sometimes when someone listens to us without interruption, it’s like they’re saying, I see you, I hear you, and your feelings are valid. This kind of validation can be more comforting than any advice.
It allows us to feel less alone in our pain, and to process our thoughts aloud, and often, through this process, we might even arrive at our own solutions.
It’s a way of saying, “No matter what the situation is I am there for you”.
It opens up a space where vulnerability isn’t met with judgment or immediate solutions but with empathy and understanding.
Instead of jumping to solve quickly we first need to listen deeply.
Of course, there’s a time and place for advice. But there’s also a time to simply be present, to let someone pour out their heart.
Sometimes, all we need is to be heard. To know that someone is willing to listen to our words, in our confusion, our pain, our uncertainty — without trying to sweep it away.
I am always there to listen in your good and bad times
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