The 2$ Reason Why People Don’t Live Beyond Their Circumstances

Change has three phases

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I recently found myself complaining.

Here’s the deal:

Nothing was in my control, and something somewhere was feeding on my time and energy for lunch.

So I’d go:

• Only if I could go to a workspace to work.
• Only if I didn’t get back so late.
• Only if there was more natural light.
• Only if I had more energy.

At first, these mental statements didn’t look like a problem.

I was genuinely looking for what was wrong to find a solution.

But then, I figured they were complaints.

Contentment should lead, no matter what.

So I decided to find joy and not let “what ifs” put a scowl on my face.

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But that didn’t fully solve the problem.

Life still felt out of control. Little to no progress was made on my goals.

It was then I discovered:

Change that leads to growth has three phases:

First is the realization of the problem.

You can’t fix what you don’t know.

Next is to figure out a way to fix the problem.

If something is wrong with you, then something is wrong with you.

There is no point pretending nothing is wrong. Figure out what’s wrong, and take steps to change it.

Thirdly — the most important piece I was missing — is to not let discontent catch up with you.

You can’t change much by getting bogged down.

You may be dissatisfied with where you are, and that’s okay. Change requires resistance of some sort.

But dreading the now to the point of discontent, won’t get you to the next.

Think of where you are now as a stepping stone to where you want to be.

You can’t get there without the “now” step.

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Have a healthy vision of where you want to be.

Do what you can to make things better. Talk to a friend, try new adventures, read a book, or take a break.

But don’t live in the “if only” world.

It changes nothing.

Instead, work with reality, aim towards a vision and stay in contentment.

Your position is what another person would trade for without a bat in the eye.

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