Hey, Lover!

Tad Wojnicki, PhD
Write Like a Lover!
3 min readJul 2, 2023

MOTTO: “Language is, of course, the greatest aphrodisiac known to humanity.” — Rudyard Kipling

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Do you want your hero to jump off the page?

Act like a flesh and blood person?

Do you want to woo, cajole, and seduce your readers? Spill love juices? Leave them hyper-ventilating, all shaken up?

If so, this book, titled, Write Like a Lover! is for you, because this book — offered chapter by chapter here— is about writing like a lover!

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We do not talk about writing romances or erotica here. Nor do we talk pornography. We are not into that. We simply talk evoking feelings. We are into literary techniques, tips, and tricks for making our readers feel. We talk about good writing, period.

We examine the visual techniques (pertaining to the eye), olfactory (nose), tactile (skin), auditory (ear), gustatory (taste), and finally, kinesthetic (pertaining to the sense of movement and bodily effort).

Throughout, we talk about grounding our writing in the bodily — i.e. the physical, the sensual, the nitty-gritty. In essence, we talk about writing with “oomph” — straight from the gut, using the body as a lover would.

The advice offered here is not geared toward any particular genre. Rather, it aims to teach you how to pen any tale, any genre — be it a psycho-thriller, a nursery tale, or a galactic intrigue.

This book gives you the nuts and bolts needed to establish a visceral connection with the reader — any reader.

Many aspects make a story work — dialog, plot, and characterization, just to name a few. But it is the emotion that grips, holds, and transports the reader, sustaining his or her involvement.

Emotion brings all the other aspects home, making the reader feel the way you — the writer — feel, and recall the sensation as though it were “their own experience,” to use Ernest Hemingway’s point.

How do we elicit an emotion?

First of all, we must know what causes the emotion in ourselves. How can we do that?

We must watch the workings of our own body, study it, and even “eavesdrop,” if you will, on the hidden reply of our own senses.

In short, we watch our reacting to the incessant blitz of daily stimuli. We want to find out what it’s really like to feel a feeling.

Then, as writers, we need to project that knowledge on paper — or a computer screen — the way that makes the reader feel what we feel.

“It’s hard,” some kvetch.

Let’s make it easier.

Write Like a Lover! does not mean to preach sensual awareness. Rather, it aims to be a toolbox, a “try-this-try-that” type of book.

It sets to demonstrate exactly just how to get in touch with one’s own body, one’s own senses, and, subsequently, with the surrounding world.

[Next Chapter: “Why “Like a Lover”?]

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Tad Wojnicki, PhD
Write Like a Lover!

Lie Under the Fig Trees (1996); Sucking Mangoes Naked: Erotic Haiku (2021); Bamboo Cafe (2021) tadwojnicki@gmail.com