Believe Parenting, Believe your child.

Tanu Vohra
Sep 6, 2018 · 4 min read

“I had a science teacher in middle school who inspired me… simply because she acknowledged me and made me feel that what I had to offer was worthy.”

Marcia Gay Harden rightly penned the thought.

Being a parent is not always guiding the right path. Instead, it’s allowing them to be their original self. Every child is different and to understand it better we can consider the varied portrayal of siblings.

My three years old often make me a surprise by gazing at the alphabets peculiarly, unlikely the other children who usually scribble them neatly. He finds the alphabet “E” to look like a comb, a “T” to be hammer & a “Q” visualised as an ice cream scoop with a spoon in it. It is perfectly alright to visualise our daily piece of work unusually. Each one of us is different & every child unique.

Give your kid ample space to develop their pathways. Impart in them the positive zeal needed to transform them into a healthy human being. There is a constant need to tell them you have faith in everything they want to pursue or do.

It is important to realise that when a child grows, a parent grows. Let the tide of innocence & energy reach heights by letting its natural flow. Children are the most absorbent piece of sponges, the more you pour in them the more soft they will be to absorb.

Kids struggle hard with their own stages of development & changes, that just a pat at the back becomes supportive.

Often, we face a tough time in parenting where we need to stay calm and composed despite so many unsettling problems.This is the moment to renew your belief. Signal your child with faith & love in the most challenging phase. Your child is the first to sense your trust.

Don’t just imagine them to be superficial, have a robotic behaviour with everything tuned at the right place & ready to face the master’s instructions. Instead be proud to have a mischievous child who gathers the crowd’s attention.

In order to cook a good recipe, its ingredients hold the prime importance. Here, are a few ingredients that will help to make your palette of parenting more interesting & delicious.

BE A MODEL, NOT CRITIC

Stop being judgemental to the innocent kid & instead enhance your believe in modelling the right behaviour to them. Children are the best spectators despite of not showcasing each time. They associate with their surroundings well.

The findings of “The Social Learning Theory” by Bandura well associated with the varied behaviour amongst children.

Children imitate and grasp behaviour from their surroundings. In the “BOBO DOLL EXPERIMENT” researchers found an aggressive change in the social behaviour of a child through the phenomenon of observation learning — through examining the behaviour of other individuals involved in the experiment.

It is important to correct ourselves before we start pointing fingers at others. So positive modelling is crucial to imbibe right set of attributes in a child.

BE PATIENT

Patience is a vital aspect of parenting. It is very important to soothe & calm yourself before you enter a child’s proximity. Step that one extra mile to relax your mood first, in order to establish a good repo with the child. May be the old proverbial “count to ten rule” while taking a few deep breathes can calm you down & make you recall that he is just a child.

Steady Perseverance is suitable terminology discovered for building patience. We, as parents can’t be on our toes all the time with everything falling right in place for our child. Trying back & again, refurbishing our mistakes, wanting to be more effective, and encouraging ourselves to find new ways to help our kids grow & turn them into successful adults are equally acknowledgeable.

Give yourself a power pat to boost your energies & also spare some good time for your own self and care. Like they say only when you are happy, you can make your surroundings happy.

“In the theatre, it’s about taking time in a musical segment, a pause in a musical way and then moving on.”

Marcia Gay Harden

Count that one good music moment of your entire day to recharge yourself for healthy parenting.

PAY THEM ATTENTION

Are you annoyed of the tantrums your child throws?

To your kind attention you are not alone. Don’t just be tyrannical in your approach.

Don’t always hang your eyeballs out when your child is pestering you. It is their way of seeking attention.

Spend some cosy moments with your kid, snuggle them. Try to validate your emotions & prioritize your schedule stealing some time for your kid when you are all available for them unconditionally without browsing some quickies into your mobiles & laptops.

When your toddler is whining, creeping & nagging without passing a hint about his weird reactions, try distracting the child. Make a move to shift the gears and try cracking funny jokes, or playing their favourite song to gather all of the attention to his funny bone.

Be affirmative to your child and enjoy their silly innocent moments.

SOME MORE HEALTHY QUICKIES:

1. Greet them with a good broad smile for the day.

2. Try adding new scrumptious recipes for their tiff-in.

3. Practice a new joke or sing a song to them.

4. Try patting their back for tiny little achievements.

5. Make a habit to read good stuff before settling in the bed.

Last but not the least; continue to rock as parents and you will have it all for your child.

Writer Mom

A publication of Jewel Eliese, Writer and Writer Moms Inc. Made for moms who write to share their talents of the written word. Fiction, poetry, and articles.

Thanks to Autumn Lindsey and Jewel Eliese

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Writer Mom

A publication of Jewel Eliese, Writer and Writer Moms Inc. Made for moms who write to share their talents of the written word. Fiction, poetry, and articles.

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