7 Ways to Staying Mentally Healthy Away From the Usual Advice You Recieve

Your mental health is as important as your life

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Mental health is an issue that the majority of us are battling within today’s world.

As there’s access to information and research shows that we live in a time wherein the world’s history, life is more comfortable and safe, staying mentally healthy shouldn’t be difficult.

But the opposite is true. Why is it so? Why is living in an age where we have access to almost everything; we are suffering mentally and emotionally? That, no matter how hard we try to stay mentally healthy, things don’t work. Is it because we are dealing with things in a manner that we shouldn’t? Or it’s as a result of our ignorance of certain things in this life? That we aren’t putting into practice the real recipes of life that guarantee safe and sound mental health? Let’s see.

Why we find it challenging to stay mentally healthy

According to research, there are about 450 million people worldwide who have a mental illness. And about 26 percent of Americans each year suffer from mental health disorders like depression, anxiety, attention-deficit, hyperactivity disorder, and anorexia. From four angles, it’s caused by;

1. Direct Physical Causes: A blow on the head; injury; hemorrhage; disease of any kind, as cancer, consumption, bright’s disease; child-bearing and its attendant perils; prolonged nursing.

2. Indirect physical and emotional Causes: Fright; shock (not from injury, but mental shock); grief; care and anxiety; business failure: trouble of all kinds; domestic infelicity; disappointed affections; the feigning of insanity.

3. Vicious Habits: intemperance; opium, chloral, and cocaine habits; sexual excess; self-abuse; and all practices of life which directly undermine the physical constitution and thus affect the brain.

4. Constitutional and Evolutionary Causes: One inherits a susceptibility, so-called, to mental disease from intemperate, vicious, insane, or delicate ancestors.

Represented above, you could see that two of the causes — the direct physical and the constitutional and evolutionary, are not directly caused by our behaviors and actions. But with the vicious habits and the indirect physical and emotional, they are mostly by us. So, the question is; what leads to these causes? The answer is simple. High expectations from ourselves and things in life, lack of direction for our lives, unhealthy competition among ourselves, not doing the things that satisfy our souls, being rigid with life, lack of understanding or knowledge about what this life is all about, who we are, etc. And now that we know the causes of the mental health problems we face in today’s world, how do we solve them?

Lower your expectation and detach yourself from things

Having higher expectations in life and after things isn’t a crime. It’s cool and great. But to the extent where you’re attached to the things you expect is problematic and a significant cause of the mental disorder. As your expectations fail to actualize, you’re disappointed in yourself. It affects your self-esteem, leading you to think you aren’t good enough, and life isn’t fair to you.

When you experience failure of expectation, you can distrust yourself and your abilities and things before you. You lose confidence in yourself, and if you aren’t mentally strong, you are likely to give up on yourself and life — the primary cause of people failing and experiencing mental breakdowns.

“When you have expectations, you are setting yourself up for disappointment.” — Ryan Renolds

Understand that nothing is certain in this life

The lack of understanding that life isn’t certain causes of mental disorders. We make decisions and choices by our lack of understanding, thinking everything that we have decided have to fall into place — from expectations. We act with certainty, forgetting that “man” has no control over certain things in this life. Therefore, since we have no control over everything, we can’t predict certain things.

So, to save ourselves from the disappointment and the headaches that come from and failure, we must come to terms with ourselves and life and understand the uncertainty of reality and lower our expectations. If not, we are bound to experience anxiety, stress, and depression, resulting in mental damage.

Follow your path in life all the time.

Not following your path in life leads to anxiety, stress, and depression, resulting in mental damages. Studies have shown that when people aren’t in the direction that they are born to be in and aren’t doing what they are supposed to do with their lives, it’s likely to affect them mentally.

I, writing this article isn’t exceptional. Only God knows the sleepiness night I’ve experienced in my life. Stress, anxiety, and depression. All because I was lost in life and wasn’t doing the things that I was born to do.

You know yourself too. And you know much pain you’ve been going through mentally by the lack of not following your path in life and not doing the things you were born to do but that of others. It could be working at a job you aren’t meant to do, in a relationship that isn’t with who you are — doing things that you aren’t supposed to do with your life that belong to others. You know that yourself!

Stop comparing yourself with others.

Comparing yourself with others leads to disappointment in yourself and your abilities. When you compare yourself with others, you do yourself a disservice because not having the things others have in their lives and not experiencing it creates an inferiority complex. You lower your value as a human being, resulting in the idea of not being good enough, low self-esteem, lack of confidence, leading to jealousy, hatred, and mental illnesses such as anxiety, worry, depression.

To save yourself, you must stop the comparison and be content with yourself and your life and relish every moment that life presents to you.

“How much time he gains who does not look to see what his neighbor says or does or thinks, but only at what he does himself, to make it just and holy.” — Marcus Aurelius, Meditations

Be easy with life

If there’s anything on the planet to save you from the emotional and psychological pain you go through, which results in mental illness, it is this — be comfortable with life. Not being cool, calm, and relaxed with life and moving with it as it unfolds and tries to make impossible possible results in mental damages.

Think of the emotional and mental pain you go through when you try to fix things that aren’t in your domain? Think about the stress, the anxiety, depression, and all that you face when trying to make or unmake certain things in life that you aren’t supposed to? How does that feel mentally, psychologically, and emotionally? You want to be comfortable with life and let things happen by themselves. If you don’t, you will likely suffer the damages and pain that come with it mentally. Stop being hard with life.

Don’t settle for less in life.

It might sound contradictory to the first point, which is to lower your expectations. But no. Lowering your expectations doesn’t mean you shouldn’t go for more incredible things in life. It doesn’t mean that when you look at your life and what you’re capable of getting out of life because you have to lower your expectations, you must settle for less. No! Often, most people aren’t happy with life by their inability to achieve what they can succeed.

To prevent these, always go for the high stakes. At least if it doesn’t happen, you’ll learn, gather some experiences for something greater tomorrow. So, why not? Never settle for less. Chase the bigger fishes in the sea and save yourself the regrets and disappointment that will lead to anxiety and depression if you don’t.

Always do what satisfies your soul.

This is the big deal that by lack of it, we suffer mostly mentally. Imagine waking up in the morning and not doing the things that satisfy your soul; what happens? How do you feel mentally deprived of your happiness and the things that help your spirit? Awkward, right?

That’s how it is if you don’t do the things that will bring you happiness and self-satisfaction. You must always ensure that whatever you do is in line with yourself and will satisfy you. If not, you’ll not be happy. You will suffer from worry, anxiety, stress, and depression, and I’m sure that’s not what you want in your life. To avoid it, always do what satisfies your soul.

In Conclusion

In as much as you are trying to deal with your mental health challenges, you must be conscious of the advice you receive from people. In dealing with this issue, most people suggest yoga and meditation, which are very good but don’t alleviate the problem entirely. Yoga and meditation is short term. As what you’re dealing with isn’t clinical, but some things, you have to stop engaging in life.

To do it isn’t about yoga or meditation. Behavior change is what you need. And employing the things talked about is what will save you.

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