Don’t Let Rejections Get You
It’s not the End of the World
Rejections hurt only because we as humans love to feel and nurture a sense of belonging. There are various kinds of ties and we give ‘that much’ of ourselves to these different associations.
Dealing with rejection need not be as horrendous as it’s made out to be. You may face rejection in relationships, at work, home, with family, at a marketplace, at school and college and just anywhere.
When you experience rejection what you actually experience is a big meaningless bundle of emotions!
Oh yes, psychologists and the like tell you it can break you — true — but only if you allow it.
Stop and stand back and watch your emotions; acknowledge what you feel and tell yourself you have the power to deal with it — it is just another emotion that does not need nurturing.
How necessary is it for you to spend precious moments in pain, sorrow, and in a deep state of hurt?
You have the ability to tell yourself that this was not the only chance you’ve had in life and there will be many more opportunities along the road. Deal with your emotions unflinchingly and assure yourself that ‘tomorrow is another day, and will be a better one’.
Rejection is an indication that you have been daring enough to move out of your space of ease.
Isn’t that a comforting feeling?
Yes, it sure is because you know you have dared. It makes you understand that you are not afraid of disappointments and you can cope with it — they won’t break you down.
As Grace Hopper says, “A ship in port is safe, but that’s not what ships are built for”.
Rejection encourages you to be kind to yourself. So, process your emotions — remember there is nothing wrong with what you are feeling and it’s alright to feel a certain way.
Compassion is not reserved only for others. It is primarily for you. Treat yourself well and respect the good values you have absorbed over the years. Engage with the confidant in you.
Affirmations can be powerful and will give you the ability and faith to move on instead of being beaten down.
Robert H. Schuller: “Problems are not stop signs; they are guidelines”.
And so are rejections — Treat them the way they should be treated.
Your rejection does not identify you as a person.
People’s opinions of you are not what you are; do not allow observations of people to misguide you. Maintain your perspective — as long as you’ve got it to your benefit. Believe in yourself and your self-worth. Keep moving with happy strides and do not allow cobblestones to tip you over.
Each rejection educates you.
Life is full of lessons, absorb what’s right and delete what’s not required. Make the clear distinction between what is required to nourish and what’s fit for the garbage. But make the right choices, do not garbage sound counsel.
People you love can drive negative thoughts away.
Thomas Aquinas: “There is nothing on this earth that is to be more prized than true friendship”.
Reach out to your good friends, laugh the unwanted emotions away. Your friends and family can help you blow your sadness away and you feel a connect to the world again when you are in their presence. Feel loved and give love. It gives you a great sense of being worthy.
Engage in healthy habits and hobbies.
Many a times a good and engaging hobby can drive out the negative feelings corroding you. Spend time doing something you like or just taking your usual walk. It helps to just breathe easy and knock the strain off you. Maybe a walk with your pet will make you happy.
Cheers to a vibrant life!