How to Get Angry Properly Next time.
Is it ok to just ignore the feelings of anger completely and make yourself stuffed with it or should you just burst out of rage and express it thoroughly and explode? What is the right way to deal with anger? Let’s find out.
That car driver behind you honking continuously even at the red light, or the service at your favorite restaurant is too late, or the neighbors who are just too loud without any reason. Situations like these can get you on your rage horse very easily. There are several internal and external reasons why we get angry at all. Anger often is caused by our own feelings of anxiety, fear and guilt.
Anger is the world’s most stigmatized emotion that alerts us to acknowledge the problem other than ignoring it. Whenever we get angry there is a release of adrenaline and cortisol in our brain, triggering us to take action towards the situation.
In fact ,A hypothesis tested by APA, proved that “people who feel anger when confronting others tend to be higher in emotional intelligence, whereas people who prefer to feel happiness in such situations tend to be lower in emotional intelligence.” So, getting angry is actually smart.
We all get angry at some topsy-turvy point in our daily lives. There are different ways we all express it due various reasons. Some of us keep it inside and others just blow up even with mild irritation. However intolerable or uncomfortable anger may feel, it is just a healthy and normal emotion like sadness or happiness is.
From very early on in our lives we have been taught to control our emotions to keep it all inside and not tell the people around us as it would come out as our weakness. Denying our anger and bottling up feelings cause a variety of physiological problems claims scientists.
On the other hand aggressively getting the anger out in the open can actually increase the intensity of anger altogether and we might start getting angry more often. which can affect our body, mind and relationships.
Anger management
According to the American Psychological Association, there are three major approaches to anger.
Expressing, suppressing and calming.
- Expressing anger in a non aggressive and approachable manner is the best possible way to tame your fury.
- Suppressing the feelings of anger or holding it in and turning it into something else can lead to dangerous health problems like depression and lead to passive aggressive nature among people
- Calming down is the final approach which includes controlling your behavior and internal responses too.
THE RIGHT WAY TO GET ANGRY
In order to express our anger in healthy ways we must be self aware of our emotions and be mindful enough to channelize our emotions towards positivity. Next time when you get angry take a step back and breath reflect on the problem ahead of you, listen to what your anger is telling you, try and enquire and talk about the problem, and breathe again, this will cool down the emotional and reactive area in your brain which causes you to get angry and you will know that you’re ready to rectify the change ahead of you.
