Life is 10 % what happens to you and 90 % how you react
We blame the weather, we blame our friends, we blame the news and so on…
Do you ever thought about your perception of life? What you think about what happens to you and how you react to those things?
The thing is that your perception of what happens to you is what really matters.
Do you ever wondered why some people are still optimistic when bad things happen and others don’t?. That’s because they have a different attitude from other people. They view things in a different way. There are people who get mad for little and people who get happy for little. These are just different perspectives of life.
Everyone in this planet has a different and unique perspective of things. The things that you may not like can be liked by your friends. Bad news may not affect you like the way they affect another person. It’s just a matter of points of view.
We all have different opinions and we have to accept them without judgment.
You have to acknowledge when you are judging someone for something and see from his/her point of view, understanding why he/her thinks in that way.
The tip is to think more about your personal perspective. Ask yourself these questions:
- Do I get mad for little?
- Do I enjoy the things that I do?
- How news about the world affect me? They make me sad, happy or neutral?
- Do I blame others often?
- Do I judge other people opinions based on my subjective opinion?
- Do I see from the point of view of the other person, accepting his/her opinions?
We can actually change our perspective if it is bad or makes us unhappy. For example if you have a pessimistic point of view you can actually become more optimistic, or at least realistic. It’s just a matter of awareness. A daily dose of self-reflection can help you out to understand your critical points and to think about how you view things. Because sometimes we don’t even realize our behaviors and we end up making mistakes. You have to be aware of how other things affect you, in which way ( You can ask yourself the questions above).
Let’s make an example: Your feel angry because your friend didn’t text you back quickly. If you reflect about this situation you’ll find that there are reasonable reasons to your friend’s behavior. Maybe he is busy or he didn’t have the chance to pick up the phone etc.
Another example: You wake up in a terrible mood, you feel mad, depressed or whatever. You start blaming everything that happens to you, even the little things. if you stop for a moment you can realize that the things that are happening to you aren’t that bad, it’s just that YOU feel bad. Once you start to be aware you realize that the things you blamed weren’t that bad.
As I said, it all start with awareness. Be aware of your own behavior towards things and people. it’s just a matter of perspective. Maybe you’ll realize that your life isn’t as bad as you thought and that you are acting towards things in a way that doesn’t improve you.
Be aware, don’t judge just because if you think something is wrong. Always be open to other points of view and try to learn from them.
Remember that life is 10 % what happens to you and 90 % how you react.
Next time you’re facing a new experience or an event in general think about the situation in an objective way, find the positive and the negative things, view the situation at 360 degrees before judging it. Just be aware of your thinking and your behavior.
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