Resting Bitch Face — Starting the day off on the right foot
Let’s talk about having a resting bitch face.
When I wake up in the morning I typically check my email immediately — just to make sure that nothing happened through the night that I should be aware of or take immediate action on. I know, that’s not supposed to be healthy — but the truth is that the stress of waiting to check my email is far more unhealthy than an immediate check. This morning I received two wonderful emails — two projects that had come together that I’d been working on since the beginning of the summer. I just knew it was going to be a great day!!
It’s funny how a good start to my day usually means that my day will go fairly well. I think that’s typical of most of us — starting on the right foot helps to put us in a positive, confident mood. It’s so refreshing to have an optimistic outlook on the day ahead — especially if it promises to be a challenging day.
The reverse is also true though, right? A night of disrupted sleep, or an unresolved argument can start the day on the wrong foot and it always seems to be challenging to bring it around. It’s just not an easy thing to do. However, I do my best to put a smile on my face and try to be pleasant. No one is perfect though, and I’m not always successful.
You know it — the ‘resting bitch face’. The face some people have when they are not in control of their facial expression, or you have caught them as they are focused on something.
I always have to explain to my staff about my own resting bitch face. I have an open door policy at my office — if the door is open, feel free to interrupt. However, if someone enters my office unexpectedly (which happens quite often), I usually face them with the resting bitch face. So, why would I allow this to happen?
Well, it’s actually for a strange reason — my eyesight sucks! I face a computer with dual screens, and I find the light in my office (even though I have a window) to be quite dim, so I have a table lamp. When someone comes in my office my eyes have usually been facing my computer screens with additional light glaring into them, and then turning to face someone (and then focus on them) requires me to squint. It can appear very abrasive.
My facial expressions are something I’m working on, and have been working on for a long time. The one thing that I have started doing is explaining to everyone that I have that face, and not to take it personally when they see it. Yes, I should be better. Yes, I am working on it. No, I’m not perfect — but I’m trying!
Until next time………………………… XO-JGF
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