The Gamble Of Love.
To find another person who is ready to gamble with you.
The endless debates about the success rate of an arranged and love marriage have drained me. Elders in Indian society usually support arranged marriages. They consider people who choose to do the opposite to be rebellious and are against the culture. Love is universal and, it does not require marriage. “Love happens after marriage”, this one line has annoyed me in the past few years. Why do people create an illusion that equals marriage with love? Marriage is a social institution, love is a feeling. They both are two different things. We all know that not everyone gets married to the person they love. Some fall out of love in a marriage. Only a few lucky people have the gift of love in their lives.
Two individuals with different personalities, backgrounds, perspectives are gambling together. When we like a person, it’s normal to expect them to be forever with us. The fact that somewhere we know our expectations might not match the reality of an unknown future. We are willing to take the risk. Brave are those who choose to love. It is easy to love when young. With our carefree, open-minded attitude, we can gamble. I feel, the ability to love unconditionally changes after you or the other person gets hurt.
We need to understand if and when we love, it is a gamble. You could love the same person till you die or might fall in love multiple times. Your marriage could be an example for others but might be a disaster for you. In the end, it is nice to find a person who is ready to go through all of it, good and bad. Maybe we all could benefit if we keep an open mind and practice being empathetic. We could find love only if we gamble. And someone said, will you stop living because someday you will die? So love even with the risk of getting hurt. Love is a gamble.
