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When Do You Restart Your Life?
Thoughts after visiting my dad’s grave
This year will mark the 12th year since my dad passed away on 21st June 2013. I was 27 years old at the time, into the 3rd month of my 3rd corporate job, and just 8 months away from marrying the love of my life.
If there’s one thing I would tell people over and over again, it’s that my dad really shaped me as a person and how I viewed life in general — heck, he shaped how I’ve lived my life this whole time.
But after more than a decade since he left, I found myself questioning some of his teachings and the way I’ve been living my life.
I then realised that not everything he taught me is still good for me.
Quite a lot of his teachings are not relevant anymore, and it actually brought more harm to me than good.
It was a mixture of relief and guilt when those thoughts ran through my mind.
How could I think that about my dad? After all that he did for me and my siblings, how can I think that way about him?
But at the same time, a lot of things made sense as to why I am the way I am, and how I react to certain situations — all from the upbringing I had, the things I have been conditioned with since young.
