I just got trolled.
What I learned from facing my biggest fear as a new writer.
4 months ago, I wrote a list of my biggest fears.
On that list was:
“I’m afraid if I put myself out there, I’ll get trolled”.
The thought that I could put my heart and soul into a piece of writing and someone I’ve never even met before could tear it apart, scared the hell out of me.
I think I was most scared because I’d just walked away from every other skill I have, to focus on one thing… writing. I’d also just retired my (not so successful) fitness business, so I knew someone attacking the skills I’m banking on to earn a living… well, talk about being blindsided by a snot-faced, club-swinging, repugnant, elephant-sized toddler.
It happened. I got trolled.
When I think about the writing I do, it’s made up of two parts.
- Ideas — developing and nurturing them.
- Presentation — ensuring ideas are presented effectively.
The troll just attacked both of these aspects of my writing.
You’d be forgiven for assuming I feel like I’ve just been kicked in the guts. Had this happened 4 months ago, I’d probably be an anxious wreck.
But today, I looked at this person’s comments and saw them for what they were…
An attack on my abilities designed to make himself look more educated and experienced than me.
The result… you’d probably find his picture in the dictionary right beside the word ‘unprofessional’. I’ve never had any previous interaction with this person, but I’d guess he wanders around the internet, cutting others down in an attempt to make himself feel powerful.
My mentor, coffee-fuelled sorcerous wizard, Alex Mullan, taught me about the concept of ‘unfuckwithable self-esteem’. Another way to describe it is a ‘borderline-delusional level of self-belief’.
Sitting down to write out my fears 4-months ago signalled the start of my journey to achieve both these things.
But I never could have achieved a level of self-confidence where the spit of trolls falls off me like water off a ducks back, had I not stopped and reassessed how I was spending my time, then readjusted my priorities.
If you’re finding yourself drawn to arguments on the internet, or worse, trembling with fear every time you hit ‘publish’ on a post, it’s a pretty good sign you’re not looking after yourself.
How do I know this?
Well, #1 means you’re likely too busy reacting to other people, you’ve forgotten you have the power to focus only on what serves you.
And #2 shows your self-esteem and self-confidence are far from ‘unfuckwithable’, so you’ve got some work to do.
The bad news:
I’d be lying if I told you coming back from either of these places was easy… but if it was easy, it wouldn’t be worth it, right?
The good news:
It is easy to start. It’s literally as simple as answering a few questions, reminding yourself what truly matters to you, then making a conscious effort to prioritise those things.
Learn to face your own trolls.
You’ll find the questions, answers and more inside The Stress-Free Success Toolkit. As you work through the tools, you’ll identify:
→ What gets you as excited as a fat kid in a doughnut store (which, as luck would have it, generally adds a daily cup of coffee to your steaming bucket of self-esteem);
→ What work tasks should happen while sipping your morning brew (the tasks that put money in your pocket, requests to work with you in your inbox and of course, another cup of joe in your self-worth storehouse); and
→ Where you should (and shouldn’t) be hanging out online (because you should only be spending time in the places where you can hand out a few cups, pour from your thermos, and enjoy a brew with your crew).
Grab a cuppa, your free download, put your feet up and change work through this toolkit. By the time you’ve sipped all the way to the bottom of your cup, you might just have changed your life. Simply click the link and enter your details below to access your free toolkit.
Here’s the link → https://www.tarafitness.com.au/medium-sfs-toolkit/.
Originally published at www.tarafitness.com.au on January 14, 2019.