You’re Not a Failure — You Just Need an Easier To-Do List

Eat, Poop, Lie Around: Check!

Darcy Reeder
Apr 14, 2019 · 2 min read
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There’s so much to do! Why can’t I just lie in this children’s ball pit all day and night? Photo by Jacob Mejicanos on Unsplash

Do you feel like a failure most days?

But failure is a feeling — or, well, maybe it’s an actual thing you can do. Hmm.

Either way, the reason you feel like a failure is you’re setting your expectations for yourself too high. If I cross a whole bunch of things off of a to-do list, I feel better about myself. So every day I make myself a list of easy things to cross out. You know, things I was probably going to do anyway, like talk to another human IRL, drink coffee and change my underwear (then put my same pajama pants back on).

I bet you do things every day. I bet you’re doing something right now. Go ahead: add “Read Darcy’s extremely entertaining Medium piece” to your list. You can cross it off at the end.

Here’s a sample to-do list to get you started:

Brush teeth.

Everyone in the family who was alive when the day started still alive at the end of the day.

Take pills.

Lie around.

Get a treat.

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I crossed off everything on my adorable list! Photo by Gabriel Yuji on Unsplash

Poop.

Wipe.

Wash at least three body parts with soap.

Worry if you’re a failure.

Read some stuff on Medium.

What other very doable things will you add to your to-do list today?

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Empathy for the win! Published in Gen, Human Parts, Heated, Tenderly —Feminism, Sexuality, Veganism, Anti-Racism, Parenting. She/They darcyreeder.substack.com

Writing Heals

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Darcy Reeder

Written by

Empathy for the win! Published in Gen, Human Parts, Heated, Tenderly —Feminism, Sexuality, Veganism, Anti-Racism, Parenting. She/They darcyreeder.substack.com

Writing Heals

This publication was created as a place for writers to share stories about writing as a healing practice. Writing has proven to help heal the mind/body and spirit. We accept submissions from writers who focus on the importance of writing in their lives.

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