What I Miss Out As an Introvert

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That friend that could have been.

Who was sitting by a group of people. But you were too afraid to reach out, because you don’t like large crowds, and so you didn’t approach to greet.

Maybe he was like you, interested in philosophy or machinery, but you’ll never found out because he’s with his friends. Too many to approach, you much prefer one to one, not one amongst many.

You abhor small talk and prefer the deeper life. Something that a group of people can’t offer because when we are with others, we try to “fit in”.

So if someone comes at you with small talk, you become aware and reply with the most boring lines and one-sentence remarks. Because you just can’t handle the dread of talking about what seems like the most pointless things.

So you stand back and devote time to your family and close bonds. Working on what you have, instead of chasing out in the world for more.

You can’t work crowds, and that’s a pity. Especially when you’re at a party, social or family gathering.

Because of this, people confuse you. They think you’re boring because you want to move on from talking about the weather, or that you’re shy because you mostly nod and respond to the same question being asked tens and hundreds of times each day: “How are you?”

All of that’s ok.

We might not have as many friends. But one or two is just fine.

If they are close enough, we can still have fun and enjoy our lives.

For what good is it to know many, if you don’t know anything past their hobbies and names?

Although we may miss out on what could have been many friends, we also miss out on what could have been wasteful relationships.

For us this is ok.

Because it gives us the time to develop a few friends. Ones we can trust will stay with us until the very end.


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