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4 Easy Steps to Eliminate Self-sabotage
Self-talk is the source of all self-evil
“The way you talk to yourself is worse, certainly, than the way anyone else talks to you.” — Seth Godin
When I wrote my book about overcoming shyness, From Shy to Hi, I shared negative thoughts that crossed my mind when I was about to approach a stranger and start a conversation. It was a real slop bucket. I was blown away when every beta reader I shared the advanced reading copy with said: “Yeah, me too. I tell myself such atrocious stuff all too often.”
That was the first time I’d ever gotten confirmation that I was not a lonely madman. We all share this affliction. I started to see this theme again and again. Self-talk was affecting everything I was teaching about.
Self-talk
What you say to yourself determines if you will do your job well. In fact, your self-talk often determines if you do any work at all. And it’s your negative self-talk that makes you lash out at your spouse or your children, not what they’ve done or said to you.
It’s easier to start a new habit than to modify an existing one. And removing an old habit is downright impossible. They are hardcoded in your brain.
