My friends nicknamed me Mr. Consistency. Clearly, they thought I possess this trait at an extraordinary level. However, there is nothing extraordinary about my consistency. It is mundane, even boring. It is not so difficult at all.
Most think consistency is hard, difficult, impossible, tough, unstable, untenable, and unsustainable.
Most people are wrong.
“Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t — you’re right.”
— Henry Ford
It’s enough to change your thinking about consistency to attain it.
I have a few ideas.
How often do you touch your mobile phone screen? Quite consistently, right?How often do you…
I’ve just reached the threshold of 5,000 monthly reads on Medium. This happened after my 2-year hiatus on Medium.
The increase in views and reads wasn’t gradual at all — there was a single tipping point, which generated most of the traffic. I can hardly attribute it to my efforts or wisdom. But I can attribute it to one secret factor hidden in plain sight — consistency.
Here goes what I discovered during the last three months of regularly publishing on Medium.
I have over 450 articles published on Medium. My previous spur of publishing on Medium “coincided” with the…
The easiest way to become aware of the performance of anything is to track it. To progress in any given area, simply begin to track the essential metrics.
You don’t have to decide that you’ll be mindful about it. Once you start tracking, you’ll put your attention into it, and it will happen automatically. Focus and results are just natural after-effects.
Towards the end of my weight loss quest, I decided to keep a food journal. I was just six pounds away from my dream weight, but I hadn’t progressed an ounce during the previous month.
Once I started to…
Eight years ago, exactly at the 26th of May 2013, I published my first book.
When I had hit the ‘publish’ button, I secretly hoped for things every first-time writing greenhorn dreams about: fame and money.
And maybe a little bit of the writer’s lifestyle — working as much as I wanted, when I wanted, and doing only the things I enjoyed doing.
I don’t think you need to strengthen your resolve to turn something into a habit. You need to have resolved.
Let’s have a look at the definition of resolve:
firm determination to do something
And a couple of other definitions:
firm — having a solid, almost unyielding surface or structure.
determination — the quality of being determined; firmness of purpose.
If something is firm, it cannot be strengthened. It’s already unyielding.
So, with resolve, it’s like with being pregnant. Either you are or not. You don’t strengthen your pregnancy.
I‘ll spare you lofty declarations and focus on areas where really my money and time go. I’ll also answer this question from two angles: time-wise and money-wise.
It struck me when I listened to an interview with Brian Tracy that people who invest in themselves got the better ROI possible. He recommends to spent 5% of your income on personal development. Suddenly, I realized I invest well over 10% of my gross income into that.
Mostly, because I pay a monthly fee for my mastermind. When I started in October 2017, the cost was over 15% of my income. …
I will start from the easiest and most impactful and finish with the most impactful in the long run (the only time horizon that really counts).
I usually note down at the beginning of my day 1–3 priorities for the day. I almost never work on anything else, till I finish them. Sometimes life gets in the way, but over 80% of the time, I manage to deal with them before sh…, ahem, life happens.
We think that self-discipline is an ability to do the things we want to do when we don’t feel like doing it. Which is close to the truth. However, the exact definition of self-discipline is:
the ability to control one’s feelings and overcome one’s weaknesses.
Self-discipline is a character trait. It needs to be built in a holistic way. Fixing on specific activities may give you a false feeling of empowerment while your overall self-discipline won’t increase much. Taking cold showers won’t help you much, if you succumb to your sweet tooth whenever you see a chocolate.
The first thing…
I’ll focus solely on self-talk here, but the underlying principles can be used for overcoming bad habits too.
Controlling all your self-thoughts is as impossibly hard as controlling an arm’s movement 24/7. It’s theoretically possible, but you’d do nothing else.
It defeats the purpose. If you focus 24/7 on controlling your arm’s movements, you will not have an ounce of attention to spare for the rest of your body… and the rest of your life. The methods I teach are habitual. They aim to habitually deflect your damaging self-talk or morph it on a subconscious level.
The biggest benefit…
It’s 7:37 am, the first day of the month (* - all the metrics in this article are from the 1st October 2017). I’ve already earned 80% of my monthly salary.
I got payments from four different sources. Admittedly, next payments will not be as hefty as the ones I got, but my side hustle will exceed my day job salary yet again.
Today is my wife’s last day in her day job. She finally trusted that my business will provide enough income so she doesn’t have to go to the work she passionately hates.
Those aren’t the grandest successes…
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