Who Am I? Why Am I Here?
Get to Know Me!
I am naturally dominant with a disarming personal style. I’m empathic and sensitive with a mischievous streak. I am intellectual, deeply spiritual and heart based. My energy is intense, but I move toward lightness. I am committed to learning, evolving, and helping make the world a better place. I’ve engaged in the type of self-reflection and other self-work required to do so.
That’s how I open my dating profiles. Still relevant here.
My Life, By the Numbers
I met with my first therapist in my first year in graduate school (I’ve had five since). Psychiatrist, actually. As I was recounting my youth, he observed how I kept track of numbers. “We count things that matter to us. Why do these things matter to you?”
That’s always stuck with me. As I recently was called upon to reflect on my life, I realized that numbers do help tell the story. For example, I’ve lived in a lot of places.
- 4 elementary schools I attended
- 7 K-12 schools attended.
- 2 universities attended
- 27 homes in 66 years
I did not come from a Leave It to Beaver family
- 22 and 20 my parents’ ages when I was born
- 13 years my parents were married before separating
- 4 parent partners other than each other
- 33 my age when my dad died
- 55 my age when I outlived my dad
- 86 my mother’s current age
- 2 siblings, 4 nieces and nephews, 5 out of 6 marriages between my brother and me
My relationship history has been much more stable. Well, until it wasn’t.
- 5 years with my first girlfriend, much of it long distance
- 31 years with my first wife, 25 years of marriage, 19 years co-raising children
- 4 years with my second wife, 20 months married
- 7 relationships since 2020, 3 current.
- Dozens to hundreds of sex partners (depending on how sex is defined) the majority in the past eleven years.
I love seeing and learning about new places and people.
- 50 states and two territories I’ve visited
- 8 states I’ve lived in
- 16 countries I’ve spent time in, including Russia, China and Cuba
And so on.
My Professional Life
From my website at www.wynnhausser.com.
Wynn Hausser is a professional communicator and change agent driven by a sense of personal responsibility to help “Repair the World.” A lifelong student of human communication and behavior with degrees from Stanford and Northwestern Universities, Wynn has spent more than three decades serving nonprofit organizations in their quest to raise awareness, visibility and funds; launch initiatives and move through transitions; and help change systems, policies and people’s behavior.
Wynn’s career includes 10 years as a documentary and educational filmmaker, 15 years in higher education communication, and close to a decade as the lead communication professional for other nonprofit organizations. He has extensive experience translating technical, legal, medical and policy details into lay language, spearheaded numerous web-based initiatives and served as a private consultant for a family foundation and arts organization.
Wynn is now sharing his knowledge, experience and wisdom as a consultant, writer and speaker. He has two grown sons and lives in Santa Cruz, California.
You can learn more on Linked-In.
How I Describe Myself
When called upon to describe myself, here’s part of what I say.
I was born a privileged Christian upper-middle-class White boy. I became a Pastor’s Kid when my father got called to the ministry. I was eventually called to Judaism. I was raised to understand racism and sexism but it took me years to fully come to terms with the role I and people like me play in perpetuating both.
For most of my life, I considered myself proudly as straight, monogamous and vanilla, and did my best to be “normal.”
Now? I describe myself as a White privileged cis-gendered bisexual Jewish polyamorous kinky man with ADHD.
To say the least, it’s been a journey. It’s involved as much unlearning as learning. And there is still much to unfold.
My perspective on life was radically altered when I accepted that I am a spiritual being on a unique human journey, not a human on a spiritual one. A heart-centered seeker who listens for the still, soft voice. A a G0d-wrestler, a change-agent, a disruptor. Fiercely devoted to self-reflection, growth and evolution. Intelligent, intuitive, empathic. Intense and passionate, sometimes to a fault. I balance this with a great sense of humor. Scarred but not bowed by life.
I accept the duality inherent in the known universe; that without darkness, there is no light; that the only path to the light is through the darkness. I am who I am today only because I have embraced this essential truth and been courageous (but not fearless) in facing my own darkness. My hungers and thirsts are vast and run deep. They feed my need to explore and push boundaries.
I am sharing so much personal information because I have the privilege to do so when many others do not. Also, I am not the image that comes to mind when someone says “bisexual, polyamorous and kinky.” I got no tats or piercings (though I might get my ears re-pierced soon). I also look nothing like my age — most people who meet me think I’m ten years younger. Until I open my mouth. Then it’s, “OK, Boomer…” Lol
These are some snapshots of who I am today that inform WynnsWorld. I am in a constant state of becoming. The journey continues.
Wynn Hausser, January 20, 2025
