Stop Proving Yourself.
Sharing Yourself Instead.
If you are trying to convince people you are good, by default, subconsciously people will think you are the opposite of what you are trying to convince them to believe. You tell them all those accomplishments, achievements, choices, failures — those are only surface details and can easily be subject to judgement and comparison. You spend all that effort, mental energy, stress to fight a battle that’s difficult to win, to begin with. It’s soul-crushing.
Force Must Meet Counter Force.
Love Has No Counter Force
Instead, go deeper into myself to discover what made me make all those choices.
*Out of love, I made those choices.
*Out of passion, I charted an unconventional course.
*Out of a sense of mission and ownership, it compelled me to make an effort beyond anyone paid me to do to take on the risks to produce results that mean something.
*Out of curiosity of my own potential, the way I want to be of service that drives me to get those results.
When I talk about my love, my passion, in my life and in my career, what made me ME, nobody can argue that. What’s beyond comparison are the values and commitments that drove me towards the accomplishments.
When I look at life, career, success, setbacks, choices through the lens and beneath the surface details, there is undercurrent longing and commitment that are driving me forward. When I realize that, a feeling of pride starts to well up in me, far away from feeling stressed or anxious or frustrated.
That longing and commitment are that something that makes me unique, and what keeps driving me forward. That’s what makes me ME.
All that I’m doing is to SHARE who I am. And sharing who I am is generous.
Generosity is the willingness to share your life with others. It’s a gift to people to allow them to love you.
When I share myself, it connects and touches the other person. It is an uplifting experience for both.
Some practical steps to move in this direction:
- Ask: what do I want to share with the world, instead of asking what people want to hear from me.
- Contemplate on and connect with my motivations, unique sense of purpose, inner characters, deepest values, commitments. These are the why behind my choices
- Go ahead and tell the story and share my life generously with others
