You Just Can’t Walk Away.

Contrary to most relationships issues, advice on the internet.

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Here is an expert from an article I recently read on the internet.

“Some people come into your life only to use you.
They are not there to love you.
Their sole motive is to take from you.

They don’t bring you joy, love, loyalty, respect or trust.
They love you for what they could take from you.
They only see you as an opportunity and not as a person. And their loyal is only to the benefits that they receive from you.

Further, they shall not share anything of theirs with you.
They are least concerned about you; they shall never show up for you, even if they can. No matter how many times you have shown up for them.

They offer no help no matter how many times you have helped them. They shall show how much they seem to care for you. So please stop living in a relationship that’s not being reciprocated.

Walk away. Refuse to be used. Stop being there for people who always disappear when you need them. Just because someone is in your life doesn’t mean that they get the best for your life. And you are always ignored. So walk away from the person, people and relationships to start afresh.”

Phew ! that was breathtaking and a whole lot convincing. Its sure is capable of creating cracks in the most meaningful, stable relationships.

Walking away from an abusive relationship isn’t easy. Especially those that have seen many seasons and are rooted firmly into the ground, despite the abuse.

I am focused on mature relationships that tend to crack open decades later. Or are force motivated by any format of communication.

While “Walk Away” may sound great as an emotional balm. And an Estatcic thought to start afresh may be very warm and comforting. Immitadeliy pops up images of a new life, a new place, with great relationships, and faces of people who would help you get there. The Dream comes back and back again — however, the suppressed cries to sleep with these dreams.

Zap out, my friend, nothing like this will happen. Probably it’s yuckier and uglier on the other side than you can imagine.

Man or Woman, once alone, you are equally venerable and are prone to exploitation. Separation in older years has mind-blowing challenges that are very difficult to handle.

The emotional support group that seems so reassuring isn’t that supportive once you take the plunge. Even immediate family members distance themselves from the fear of being quoted or held responsible for any action of yours. The canvassers now shout culprit.

Challenges like Accommodation, support systems, routine activities, financial management, medical assistance, and some of the essential life support help are challenges.

And even worst in southeastern asian countries. It’s a SIN to think about walking away in certain cultures. Southeastern Asian counties have their challenges. Society culture and norms that hold the clergy and the right to duty are so intertwined into their fabric of life that Walking Away is Big NO.

The power of being chained to a spiritual mandate is rooted in the history of such countries. It’s a clan that gets into the relationship and not independent individuals.

Should anyone give a war cry of freedom, the immediate family followed by the extended family members immediately hush it down. They are deff to any plea of the oppressed. Their job is to stitch the relationship back together. Shoddy, Sticky, fair, unfair, temporary, patch it up. That’s just about it.
Those who still choose to break away face a very judgemental society. It’s like a pair of eyes trying to judge if you are the culprit. Stigma, henpecking, alienation and discrimination are complementary.

No wonder some relationships last a lifetime without emotions, expectations, love or care. It’s just a duty that either performs to who’s the benefit? Few can answer.

Apart from the society and clergy, financial interdependence, followed by medical support systems, plays a critical role.

The social-economic structure in most countries requires more than two hands to run a household, and the health care system in many countries is far more complex to get and is highly expensive.

Choose the pain you can endure, live with it or Walk Away.