Punishing or protecting?

I choose to challenge what most families in our country call as protection. To me, it looks like it’s a way the adults have chosen to punish the female race. Even if we couldn’t correct what’s wrong, trying to conceal what’s wrong is the worst one could ever do. Starting from "wear your dupatta properly!" to " you must bring honor to the family by not being different from anyone" it’s all punishment rather than protection. When my mom sends me to classes like Karate to protect myself, then we call it protection but if I am told that the world is not safe for me and hence I have to stay home, it becomes punishment. Disciplining what needs to be disciplined is never done. One day, we were told to not play as freely as we were playing because it might distract the boys. If their self control was so low, the teacher should have told the boys to be more self controlled rather than telling us to not be carefree about our bodies. We don’t have to be self conscious . After all, it’s the shelter of our soul.

But this is not the scenario because majority of us want to do what’s safe. If she ever told those boys to be controlled, they’d troll her everyday but we were to remain quite so it was safe to tell anything to us. And majority of the Indian population would not teach what’s right and wrong so there’s no astonishment when something goes wrong, the victim gets blamed. It is as if I give a child a knife and an apple to cut, and if the child cuts her/his finger, I yell at the knife since the child wasn’t careful.

For this exact reason, women need to know that they aren’t meant to be controlled, calm, patient and quiet

We go through a lot of things in our lives to grow and not to hide it. Our body, mind and soul are ours to protect and do not wait on anyone to protect you at any cost. You are your own boss and body guard. This world could be a better place or a hell but at least let’s not accept punishments disguised as protection.

Never discipline yourself unless you have actually done something that was not right. In many situations, I have heard how parents especially mothers show discrimination between the boy child and the girl child. Rebel when this happens. Society begins at home. We make up the society not everything which are common and acceptable are righteous. Knock on his male ego, be loud and tell him that you’re going to run this world. Keep feeding your fuel from their negative words. Most of the time, they aren’t protecting you just punishing you.