Why do we need validation so much?
The best kind of search for acceptance to adapt
Most of us come from a culture that gains confidence in the approval of our family. It starts with our parents, then teachers and also at work. Now, social media likes and comments is another huge way to seek approval. We need to be told we are doing well. We find it challenging to sieve life independently without the support of others, how much ever liberal values we obtain. This stems from the desire to feel safe and secure within, it is linked to the overall feel goodness of ourselves.
I’m not what I think I am, I am what I think you think I am.
A popular quote on how much an image about us from others is the mindset of how many of us travel with. Knowing how disapproval feels like, we play safe and dumb to avoid conflicts. We tend to reply in ways the other person wants to hear. These strategies we take as of the desires for our approval-seeking behavior. Someone else not agreeing with us is not hating us. This we must get into our minds first and foremost.
Disapproval does not mean hate
When someone utters a thought different from us, instead of being mute or sugar-coating. Expressing our inner voice and observing what the impression could at the most, bring the most unfavorable…
