Self Improvement

Control the dominoes of emotion

Sometimes emotions come to us out of the blue, but sometimes they don’t. Sometimes, we can choose to control them.

After a surprising positive or negative external event happens, our automatic processes in the mind react, forming thoughts.

How many ways can you see the world?

Are you a coder? A marketer? A designer? A manager? A systems thinker? A writer?

We might call these labels or professions, but they are really filters. Filters on reality that make it look different from what it is. A biologist sees a…

Set your own expecations

You go see a movie you were looking forward to… and it dissapoints you. Someone else goes because of a friend and is pleasantly surprised. Why? Expectations.

We attach our feelings to events in the future (meeting, movie, vacation, work session…). We set the…

Wear a different self

This is what I do
This is what I don’t do

This is who I am
This is who I am not

When we’re children, we don’t care about this. We are. We play. We learn.

Let the subconscious solve your problems

A shower, a walk, a lunch — what do they have in common?

Yes, those are the times where good ideas come. Where solutions appear.

Return to what you once learned

From the science of learning we know that if you re-read something once a couple months, you will retain it and remember it.

Then, if you remember the content, you can revive the meaning of it and use it in a relevant situation, leading to a…

Practice self-compassionate inquiry

Sometimes I find my self blaming myself for doing a thing in a less than ideal manner. Maybe I didn’t send a great email, or prepare well for a meeting, or I didn’t work as hard as I feel I could.

Instinct of immediate opposition

Pointing out one mistake in what a person said does not prove them wrong.

Saying you can’t understand how someone thinks doesn’t make them wrong or the situation any better.

The true knowledge from within

Every day we’re in touch with external world through email, messaging apps, or social media. But are we in touch with the internal world?

If you felt tired, uneasy, or uncomfortable in the last 24 hours, there was a reason for that feeling. Sometimes…

Stairway to heaven and a slide to hell

When you wake up, you have a choice: exercise or not exercise?

This is one of the many choices you make every day that share a certain characteristic — one is good for you and the other isn’t.