On Sunday, July 12, Donovan La Bella, a 26-year old was at the Black Lives Matter protest, standing peacefully with his arms in the air. An officer a short distance away shot at his head directly, hitting him with an impact munition, causing major skull fractures. He was essentially a sitting duck.

On Friday, July 15th, a protestor named Mark Pettibone was leaving the protest, and was picked up, off the street by unmarked men in unmarked military-like fatigues and thrown into a mini-van. They had no warrant, nor did they identify themselves.

On July 18, retired Navy Veteran, Christopher…

There are a lot of things to protest right now. And, while I think we’ve all been able to get away with passivity in the past, we are at a transformational time in our history when we may all have to fight for something at some point. And, where you could just grab some water and a sign in the past, times are different now — you need protection. The police and Feds are not de-escalating anything — rather, the opposite. Despite what some media outlets say, those on the ground know that law enforcement are often the instigators and…

WFH: 3/25

What? We’re ‘Sheltered in place’ and working from home? What possibly am I going to do with all that time indoors?

Dearest daughters,

I know I shared these with you already and you rolled your eyes, but I want to put them here in case you decide they might come in handy. I love them and have found them a good guide when trying to make more enlightened decisions.



The Right Questions

Things to ask yourself when making decisions, big or small.

Adapted from Debbie Ford’s The Right Questions

  1. Will this choice propel me toward an inspiring future or will it keep me stuck in the past?
  2. Will this choice bring me long-term fulfillment or will it bring short-term…

Dearest daughters,

Self-esteem often gets blamed for what is actually fear. So many people refuse to stick their necks out, take risks, and live their lives, etc. because they are scared. Some are often so scared of being rejected, failing or losing their life that they never really live.

The first big mistake is in thinking you have control over any of it, but you don’t. You cannot predict or control what people are going to do or what forces of nature or man are going to do either. …

Dearest daughters,

Let’s just get this out up front: I prefer peace, but sometimes, achieving peace requires a good right hook.

I’d like to say everyone in life will be nice, fair and moral. And while most people will try, there are those few that will be jerks and continually interfere with your peace of mind. Some parents might suggest you wuss out, wait it out or just avoid the situation altogether. In contrast, having learned the hard way, I will always tell you to stand up for yourself and not let low-functioning people have a say in your happiness…

Dearest Daughters,

As Buddha supposedly said*:“Believe nothing, no matter where you read it, or who said it, no matter if I have said it, unless it agrees with your own reason and your own common sense.”

Yes, that statement is more than just our family refrigerator magnet J −it’s a very important truth. As you’ll discover, much of our culture and our world is dictated by a set of conventions and flawed systems. People do many things because that’s the way they’ve always been done- but that doesn’t mean it’s the right way of doing things. Remember, not too long…

Dear Daughters,

There are two kinds of people in this world: Those that wait for things to happen and those that make things happen. Which one are you?

Your life will be filled with people that should make things happen and won’t. They will be friends, co-workers, bosses, religious leaders, community members, teachers, etc., and although they are those often tasked with getting things done, the majority of them won’t. Many of them will feel inadequate to get the job done, some will be lazy, others will lack passion, or they may just be overwhelmed with life. And, no matter…

So, when I was a little girl, I was taught by family, church and society that I wanted a good looking husband (preferably a prince), a family (boy and girl), a big house (decorated perfectly) and to stay at home with my kids (and cook gourmet food that looked like something other than food). When I watched TV, looked at magazines, everyone with those things always looked SO happy, so why would I question it?

Being the person that I am, even though I was a total goof in every way, I managed to clumsily achieve this for myself. At…

Sometimes I dislike organized religion. No, I don’t have a tolerance problem- I feel like everyone should worship or not worship the way they please. I also think people should live the way they please-just so long as everyone is honest about who they are and nobody tries to step on anothers personal experience and indoctrinate others into their personal view of the world, unsolicited. And no, I’m not an atheist. I believe there is some order to this world we all share and it had to come from somewhere. I think there are powerful truths all around us and…

Kristen Maxwell

I spill ink on purpose. Someone has to. Convo designer by day, author & amateur artist by night. T:@kmax2go Fb: AuthorKristenMaxwell Web:kristenmaxwell.com

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