“Who Cares?!?”
In response to some of the reactions to coming out as bisexual.
A few weeks ago, I published a very long, extremely personal essay which covered a lot of territory. But, at its heart, was my official, public declaration of my sexual orientation. I am, and always have been, bisexual.
I have to say, I am incredibly fortunate. I know this. All of the public response to my essay was supportive and positive. And, as someone who struggles with anxiety disorders, I can’t thank those people enough for their caring after I laid bare so many tender spots and, especially, for their willingness to publicly support and accept me. I also appreciate those who were willing to privately have an awkward conversation with me instead of making assumptions.
In fact, I am so fortunate that, other than losing a handful of social media followers, I didn’t experience any really hurtful backlash nor outright negativity.
But, all of the reaction was not glowingly positive.
Both directly and indirectly, I was met with some responses which were quite reminiscent of the mixed messages I was raised on. People whose actions undermine their words or whose words betray underlying conflicts.
It wasn’t surprising. Much of it is actually deeply entrenched in misconceptions which are…
