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A drawing of someone seen as lazy by societal standards.

There’s no such thing as Laziness.

Aiman Hassani
May 23, 2017 · 9 min read

Are you a couch potato? Or do you act like one?
Has someone ever called you “lazy”?
Do you see yourself as a slacker in society?

Yes? No? Sometimes?

From feeling completely immobilized to do anything, to experiencing little stabs in my stomach when I had to do something. I went through it all. Rejoice in the fact that you have been mislabelled by society and that there is hope for all of us who have ever considered ourselves lazy!

We see lazy people as bad people, but there is a reason why people are/become inactive. And this can be fixed.

I recently published part of my talk that I gave at TEDx Utrecht in the Netherlands where I spoke about this topic. Here is the link to that video.

Laziness (also called indolence) is disinclination to activity or exertion despite having the ability to act or exert oneself. It is often used as a pejorative; terms for a person seen to be lazy include couch potato, slacker, and bludger.

Laziness

What if someone is able to do this activity/exertion physically for example but not emotionally?

The Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines laziness as a disinclination towards activity or exertion¹ despite having the ability to do so. What we miss in this, is that this definition is too simple. Who defines this so called “ability”? What if someone is able to do this activity/exertion physically for example but not emotionally? Does this still make them able. So this means if you are disinclined to do anything, then you are lazy. I am ok with simple definitions (I mean let’s not complicate things when we don’t need to). However if these simple definitions are used to fund research grants and are used to create media content, let’s then at least get them straight.

In my journey I found out, that it’s not a problem, it’s actually an opportunity for greatness! It’s just something we aren’t addressing properly. I just want to let you know that I overcame being ‘lazy’ and so can you!

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Disinclined to do anything

Here’s a common experience with lack of desire: You want to do something, but you think to yourself “Meeeh, I’ll do it later”.

Even though you may want to do it or experience social pressure to do it, you have this unwillingness to do it.

Or you are even averse to it: “Noooo, I don’t want to do this!” or “I’d rather do anything else than this.” Sound familiar?

Then we assume we are lazy and we don’t break this cycle. Unless a deadline comes up or we feel lazy or resistant against another task, which makes the previous one sound more appealing than the one at hand. Sounding familiar?

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In my own experience, the simplest things could make me procrastinate and I didn’t know what to do with them. I felt incapable and therefore found myself scrolling the social media newsfeeds into an abyss.

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Human behaviour: request > busy > error > priority > run-stop-step

The human behavior, a switchboard

Everyone is wired differently, you may be blocked to do something, whilst other types of people are blocked from doing other things. Our personal experiences have shaped who we are, and as a result have various experiences and culture.

This has to do with the fact that we can’t suppress emotion fully, and this is where the definition of laziness becomes psychological. Every input we receive first comes through the screen of our psychology: our history, our experiences and our emotions. Based on all of this programming, our unique behavior process starts.

So when faced with an activity we may respond differently to someone else, or society as a whole.

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You are blocked inside! That’s it.

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Things that generally block you

In music, monophony is the simplest of musical textures, consisting of a melody (or “tune”), typically sung by a single singer or played by a single instrument player (e.g., a flute player) without accompanying harmony or chords.³

In music, monophony refers to a simple tune, typically played by a single instrument without being accompanied by harmony or chords. Yet in our daily lives, we are used to being overstimulated with the maximum possible harmonies, accompaniments, distractions and instruments. For this reason, monophony, a single tune, is very confronting to us. This is how binge watching has become a phenomena; we engage in hours of guaranteed stimulation and it requires nothing from us but attention.

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Actions

Once you become aware of this, everything becomes beautiful for what it is, because you realize that it’s not about the action, but about the colorful, historical reasons why you’re not engaging in it.

What are things your mind is telling you before you try doing something?

My mind would tell me I am not good enough to do it, or some other core programming gets raised, like “It’s never gonna work out anyways, so why try?”

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Study says that Laziness is contagious

A recent study found that laziness is contagious. It noticed that people who exude ‘lazy’ behavior are more ‘lazy’ when they are around ‘lazy’ people. And the more productive people are more productive when they are around more productive people. Overall, the study concluded that further study is needed.

Workarounds

And why not the other?

The above mentioned study did find that productive people who were in the company of other productive people seemed to confront one another’s blockages. These people became more aware of their blockages and were able to overcome them. Conversely, the blocked people who were among other blocked people saw no reason to unblock themselves.

My take on this study is that it oversimplifies this idea, just like how a dictionary simply describes the word lazy, and doesn’t consider the psychology of what it actually means in society. Could it be that a group of motivated and “productive” people all working together inevitably work through their blocks, while a group of “unproductive” people working together inevitably stumble upon and falter in each other’s blocks?

I have noticed that the work environment we created at wedowe, a non-profit I work at, where everything we do is about activating people to change the world around them supports keeping our community members and co-workers active. Even when they don’t feel like it to start/finish a project/task, they most of the time are able to overcome this and continue. Of course there are moments when the block is too big or complex to conquer, but we have built an infrastructure of support where this can be addressed. At wedowe, we believe that feeling blocked is just a thing that happens and nothing to be ashamed of and can be overcome.

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Someone standing still, while on his phone in a society that is “moving”

Encouraged Society

I believe we can move society to do certain things if we advertise it the right way. And right now this is misaligned. We are encouraged to shop, we are encouraged to earn money by having a job, we are encouraged to go to bars, we are encouraged to scroll endlessly through a few apps on our phone. We aren’t encouraged to understand ourselves, self-improvement is not encouraged as much as it should be, we aren’t encouraged to solve big societal issues. And this is curious. Can you imagine a world where we are encouraged to do all of the above?

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So now that you know that you are blocked, what can you do?

Start meditating to become aware of the blockages you feel. Awareness is a big part of changing any behavior. It’s been said to just meditate for 5 minutes a day, could drastically change your life.

Both Therapy and Meditation have been key for me to unblock whatever is keeping me back to reach what I want to reach in life.

And if you just want some beginner tricks to get over your procrastination for simple tasks:

Try “The Pomodoro technique”, which is a time management system where you break down your tasks in 25 minute intervals separated by short breaks.

We were never prepared for this!

So where am I now?

Nothing can hold me back anymore because there is always something new to discover to why I am feeling held back. Which allows me to keep unlocking and freeing myself up more and more.

This has been one of the greatest gifts to have in my daily life and it’s been my pleasure to share this with you.

So now you know and you can’t go back anymore. Share this knowledge and lets re-activate people.


-Aiman Hassani is the co-director of wedowe.org, a non profit based in Eindhoven, the Netherlands that activates people to change the world.

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