Goodbye, 2020! We made it!!
What a year we had. With everything that went down, many of us have spent last year struggling with setting and achieving goals.
Some days it felt like all we were doing was trying to survive, let alone thinking about our long-term vision and dreams.
So, you’re probably wondering if you should set any new goals for 2021, or forget about them altogether.
This is totally normal. It’s what happens with all big change.
And the bigger the change, the more tempted we are to give up and turn our attention to something new and…
I’m a hopeful, optimistic person — partly by nature, partly by necessity.
Growing up, it had allowed me to have something to look forward to — the day when I could finally be free of a critical, controlling mother, and have the life of freedom and independence I had always dreamed of.
I knew things would get better — it had to, right?
That hope kept me going. And when I finally left home, I kept on hoping. And I didn’t learn about the dark side of hope until I met my ex-boyfriend.
Our relationship started out like a fairy…
“Don’t come out of hell empty-handed.” — Steve Leder
I hosted a Meetup last week, the first in-person one since March and the final one of the year. We had a good turnout, 16 in total. Everyone — myself included — were excited to be meeting in person rather than on another Zoom call.
When I announced to the group that we would be doing an “Annual Review” exercise, some of the members were skeptical about the value of looking back on a “bad” year like 2020. …
“Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend. Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today and creates a vision for tomorrow.” — Melody Beattie
I’ve been been thinking about gratitude a lot lately. 2020 has been a rocky ride for most of us, and it seems there’s little to be thankful about.
After all, why should we feel grateful for a year that started with widespread bushfires (here in Australia), followed by…
“Don’t shrink, don’t puff up, stand your sacred ground.” — Brené Brown
For the longest time, I thought there was something wrong with me. Since I was a little girl, I was extremely shy and introverted. I was anxious and awkward around people, and I felt like a freak.
Being an immigrant didn’t help. My family moved to Australia when I was 14.
And I had to deal with not only all the physical and emotional changes that came with adolescence, but I was also expected to settle in to a brand new culture, learn a new language, start in…
“When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one that has opened for us.” — Alexander Graham Bell
Many of us — myself included until my last breakup — see breakups as a mistake or failure.
We fight against it to try to keep the relationship going, or put it into the “too hard” basket and move on as soon as possible. …
“If we have no peace, it is because we have forgotten that we belong to each other.” — Mother Teresa
I’ve been thinking about friendships a lot lately.
With everything that’s going on in the world, I find myself missing my friends and craving their company. And while I’m lucky enough to be in a country — Australia — that has one of the lowest COVID-19 cases in the world, most of my close friends don’t live here.
Such is the nature of modern friendships, and thank God for technology!
I’ve always been fascinated by friendships. As a huge introvert…
“You can do anything, but not everything.” — David Allen
Motherhood didn’t come easy to me. I struggled for a few years after my daughter was born. Being a recovering perfectionist and overachiever, I tried to do it all and do it perfectly.
What’s more, I also bought into the whole work-life balance myth.
I thought that if only I could find this elusive balance, then everything would be okay. I could finally juggle the 101 items on my to-do list successfully. And I’d be less stressed and grumpy, more calm and, well, balanced — whatever it means.
Breakups are hard for everyone, introvert or extrovert. But if you’re an introvert, your breakup experience might be even worse than others’ — simply because of who you are, how you view relationships, and how you process your emotions.
For example, the introvert’s introspective and reflective nature means you might feel every single emotion intensely and end up overwhelmed by painful emotions. You might endlessly rehash old conversations and arguments in your head, unable to think clearly or even to function properly in your daily life.
It makes sense, therefore, to know what those differences are so you’re more prepared…
“Fitting in is about assessing a situation and becoming who you need to be to be accepted. Belonging, on the other hand, doesn’t require us to change who we are; it requires us to be who we are.” — Brené Brown
According to research, on average it takes about 50 hours with someone before you consider them a casual friend, 90 hours before you become good friends, and about 200 hours to become close friends.
That’s an awful lot of time!
For busy parents who are juggling work, kids, family, housework, and whatever little self-care they manage to do, there’s…