The pandemic has triggered a wave of reflections about how hard it is to stay at home, but many of us have been doing it for years.

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Lots of people are disabled but undiagnosed, so why don’t we hear many stories about that experience?

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Friendship changes when you get sick, and it hurts.

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When you’re chronically ill or dynamically disabled, it feels like your whole life is about trying to get better

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When you are chronically ill or dynamically disabled, you must constantly let go of the person you used to be.

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For people living with chronic illness and dynamic disability, rest is part of the solution not the problem.

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Maybe the media has led you to believe that all disabilities are visible and static. Disabilities caused by chronic illness can be anything but.

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There comes a point when building your best life is more important than chasing the wellness you’ve lost.

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For one weekend, I forgot about my strict self-care regimen and became a person I’d nearly forgotten about. It felt wonderful.

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It’s a process, not an event

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Brianne Benness

Host of No End In Sight, a podcast about life with chronic illness. Co-founder (& former co-producer) of Stories We Don’t Tell in Toronto. She/Her.

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