Stop taking someone at their word when they have a track record of being untrustworthy. — “Look for the best in everyone!” “Everyone has good in them!” “Be more trusting!” Look, I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but the reality is that most people don’t have your best interests in mind. …

I project my insecurities unto my partner — My husband and I have been together for over five years. Throughout our relationship, he has been my biggest supporter, especially regarding my healing journey. We are in a secure, healthy, happy marriage, yet… the effects from past abusive relationships and a tumultuous childhood still impact my mental health. However…

The way that we approach relationships has to change. — It has become so apparent in recent years that how we approach relationships has to change. Divorce rates are continually skyrocketing, and recent studies show that only 10% of couples report their partnership as healthy and happy. There needs to be a shift in how we approach our partnerships and…

What can we preemptively do if the odds are not in our favor? — Friends and family in my inner circle are beginning to get divorced. Some have been married for a decade, others for five years, and some for only a year. Even though they cared about their partner and were initially in love, the marriages became unhealthy or toxic. Yet even before…

Opinions come at us head-on, especially in our social circles. — Recently someone incredibly close to my husband and I reacted to the comment that we aren’t sold on being parents and proclaimed that our lives would be “meaningless” if we decided not to have children. The comment has been repeating in my head, over and over, like a little tick. …

How to prevent losing yourself in the whirl of a new romance. — I recently had coffee with a close friend in a seemingly healthy relationship. Her partner is supportive, friendly, and thoughtful; they seem perfect on paper. However, one comment during our time together stuck with me. “I feel like my most genuine self when I’m with my family or friends… not…

The conversation turned into an angry rant about their ex. — Before meeting my husband, I explored the dating and relationship scene for many years. There are no regrets; all the experiences helped me learn who I was, what I wanted, and what I didn’t want, and I didn’t settle for anything less than what I deserved. However, the road to…

“Your wife wants more kids; give her more kids.” — Over the last few weeks, I have talked with women, some friends, and other strangers. Throughout these conversations, they have shared the constant overstepping that occurs simply from being a certain age or after meeting certain milestones. If you are pregnant, people immediately rub your belly without asking. If you…

Human connection is still at the heart of what people desire. — Over the last few years, I have seen a massive shift towards virtual dating, with many friends and family turning to online platforms to search for love and commitment. The days of snail mail, AOL instant messenger, and phone calls are over. Now there is AI, chatbots, video calls, and…