Learning how to say no is so important! We say yes because we feel obligated to someone or something, because we are maybe flattered to be asked. So many reasons.
Truth is, once you discover the power of “no” you won’t go back. It allows you to be focused, more productive and, in the end, produce better, stronger work.
Great piece. I stopped drinking for a year and clearly remember facing each situation in which I would usually have a drink with trepidation — as if there could be no “fun” without alcohol. Each time I was proven wrong. Nowadays I work (and, yes, it is work) to be mindful of consumption and to enjoy periods where I abstain.
Absolutely the right approach to everything — whether the
“job” at hand is doing the dishes or leading a contentious meeting. It is all about your approach and attitude. Your thoughts become who you are — so it follows that the thoughts and attitudes you bring to bear on everything that you do are those that will define you. Thank you for your words….
I make it a habit to read poetry and essays in the early morning (pre-meditation) and then, using the ways that the language has stirred my brain, I will write.
The mornings are quiet. My mind is alert (did I mention the cup of coffee?) and ALSO a little in the dream world. So the creativity is fluid.
This is such a difficult lesson to learn, particularly because we believe that we can actually change our external world more than we actually can. So we have this mythology that we are masters of our own universe. In fact, pretty much the ONLY thing we are masters of is our mind and our reaction to our circumstances (hence the equivalent happiness…
Jeff, you may have already heard it but I recommend Sam Harris’s conversation with Jack Dorsey on Twitter’s attempts at spurring healthy conversations.The platform simply is NOT going away — we do no good by ignoring it. But using it as a tool for healthy, productive conversation is crucial.
I tend to compartmentalize some of my work. Creative writing in the morning when there is no one awake to disturb me and my mind is close to dreaming and then, as you say, (once I’m in the office) a very focused approach to my tasks. I have to block time for long-form editing and writing and find that that is the hardest thing to work into a typical…
thanks for this. I find that it is important to approach goals from a perspective that is compassionate as well.
Pema Chodron says (paraphrasing here) that the desire to change oneself is, ultimately, an act of aggression. What she means is that there isn’t really anything TO change. We are great just as we are.