Published in Maggie’s List·PinnedMember-onlyMaggie’s ListResources for the new, the old, and anyone else interested — honestly, I don’t know where to start. I am a 24 years old girl from xxx a 30-year-old single mom, a 63-year-old woman… These were some samples of messages from my inbox, on another platform, in 2018. They said things like this: I don’t know why I am sending you this, I feel desperate and very much…BDSM3 min readBDSM3 min read
Published in The Bad Influence·1 day agoMember-onlyThe Roles We Adopt in KinkI’m not the police; I’m a princess! — On a different social media site, I have been discussing roles in the kink world. As it turns out (and this may surprise you, but if it does, that’s because you’ve been living off the grid in the wilds of Vanillaville), some of the roles that people adopt offend other…Kink4 min readKink4 min read
Published in Maggie’s List·Mar 5Member-onlyWHole In The Universe Opens Into Kinky WebsiteSocial media transforms as thousands of cool kids flock to safe space and realize they’re not in Kansas anymore. — I just got called one of the cool kids on a kink social media site, and the person who said it wasn’t being ironic. As a queer, fat, kinky, autistic old woman, that’s not what I’m used to being called. What’s particularly impressive about this is that the site I’m…Social Media4 min readSocial Media4 min read
Published in The Brain is a Noodle·Mar 4Member-onlyAnti-Racism/Pro-Social Justice Media Platforms FormingA new day is dawning, and I am here for it! — Women, BIPOCs, LGBTQIA folks, and others are often targeted online for expressing their points of view or even for simply existing. For many years I’ve been active on Twitter and on a BDSM site, even though I often found them to be fairly toxic. Two new sites have opened as…Social Media2 min readSocial Media2 min read
Published in The Brain is a Noodle·Feb 26Member-onlyFive More Things I Love About Living in HollandThese are things I never expected. — I’ve lived in the Netherlands for two years and love it. The city I live in is old and beautiful, remarkably civilized while still having a wild side. Here are five things that surprised me. Five: The climate is milder than expected, and the rain isn’t as bad as expected…Netherlands2 min readNetherlands2 min read
Published in Maggie’s List·Feb 24Member-onlyI Want to Talk About My Visit to My Dutch DoctorI also want to talk about being a queer, autistic, fat, kinky, female, elder. — I want to talk about issues related to sexuality and gender without fighting off misogynist or transphobic attacks. Sometimes I want to talk about what it’s like to be a 68-year-old woman who is still sexual, or kinky, or queer. I also like to talk about living in Holland. Or all of the above at the same time. I…Social Media4 min readSocial Media4 min read
Published in The Bad Influence·Feb 21Member-onlySubmit to the FutureBDSM, Fetish, and Kinky community website ready to launch — On February 24th, a new website will launch* to change how we kink online. With a foundation of equality, inclusion, and safety, this may be the website we’ve all been waiting for. *This is early access for anyone pre-registered. The full launch date is March 10th. As someone who has…Social Media3 min readSocial Media3 min read
Published in Maggie’s List·Feb 21Member-onlyThe Move to Socially Conscious Social Media in KinkNew platform will promote an atmosphere of inclusion and consent. — Recently I received a couple of PMs from people on another social media site inviting me to join a newly developing platform that is based on consent and inclusion. They told me they thought I would like it, and they were right. I’ve been fooled before, but this time I…Social Media2 min readSocial Media2 min read
Published in The Brain is a Noodle·Feb 18Member-onlyMore Thoughts on AutismThings I’ve learned while watching Extraordinary Attorney Woo — Sometime in my early 60s, I was officially diagnosed as being on the spectrum. The reasons behind my “quirks” suddenly became clear. Learning about myself as autistic has included reading, talking to neurodivergent friends and family, and, most recently, watching Netflix. Woo Young-woo, the star of Extraordinary Attorney Woo, is…Autism2 min readAutism2 min read
Published in The Shortform·Feb 17Member-onlyI Don’t Have AutismIt’s not a disease. — I have a hat. I can take it off and put it back on. I have a dog. Some day she will die, and I won’t have her anymore. I have green eyes. Their color is fun but an insignificant feature of mine. Autism, on the other hand, is not…Autism1 min readAutism1 min read
