Overcoming emotional addiction to a person.

Manushvi Nithyanandan
4 min readAug 18, 2023

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Do you feel like you are in a relationship that doesn’t support your health emotionally and physically, but still you are not able to leave it? Or are you in a relationship where you can’t stop thinking about your loved one and their needs while forgetting about yourself?

If so, then you are in an addictive relationship, which means ‘addiction to love’.

How to break your addiction to a person? No matter what type of addiction you are into, it would be associated with an uncontrollable obsession. Addiction to a person is slightly different from other addictions because this would affect both you and the person.

I have come across my friends who struggle to get rid of their addiction to their loved ones. It seemed silly to me at first, but later I realized how much it can affect a person.

It will be filled with feelings of hope, desperation, expectations, doubts, and stress. It controls a person in a relationship making it toxic. I understood that being addicted to a person means connecting to them on a level that you feel your life would be meaningless without them.

I understand that breaking free from addiction to love can be difficult,

But remember, “Nothing is Impossible”.

How to break your addiction to a person?

It is common to be addicted to things. While some get addicted to substances, some people get addicted to their loved ones. But when things get extreme, they find it hard to get rid of them.

Addictive relationships are fantasies and you are in love with what you wish the person was, not what they are.

You might have not expected to become addicted at the start of a relationship. You may have thought of taking fun and can’t stop it at any time. But it would not be the same for everyone, where many people get surprised and how difficult it is to break a relationship. And you may have wondered why you find it hard to quit.

Identify your addiction

You must first identify the addiction before you can learn how to stop your addiction to love. Recognize and accept your feelings and thoughts. Many people pretend that this terrible event won’t occur in order to maintain their grip on an obsessive relationship. You must stop worrying about reality and be in the moment.

You weren’t placed in this world to experience stress, feelings of guilt and unworthiness, and thoughts of condemnation. You only need to live life to the fullest.

Be honest with yourself once you begin to embrace reality. Knowing about your addiction will make it easier for you to avoid being around items that trigger it.

Detach from that person

Finding the line between fantasy and reality may be difficult, but you must do it. We frequently have illusions about what other people would think and hold out hope that one day, these fantasies may come true.

To keep the connection going, do not act as if everything is well. You should acknowledge that your relationship is unhealthy if you consider any form of extremism in it. Be sure to end the relationship before things worsen.

You must mentally get ready to let go of all physical ties. It would take patience, perseverance, and optimism to realize that you need more time to break this connection.

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After taking a break from your dependency-inducing relationship, you must learn to embrace living independently in order to maintain your independence. You need to learn how you should react if the person to whom you are hooked tries to contact you in the future.

After taking a break from your dependency-inducing relationship, you must learn to embrace living independently in order to maintain your independence. You need to learn how you should react if the person to whom you are hooked tries to contact you in the future.

If you ever run into that individual again, have yourself ready and figure out how to react. First and foremost, you must keep in mind the reasons for ending the relationship, together with the fact that spending time with someone who made you feel unimportant is not worth it.

You can be in a scenario where you have to deal with certain mental and physical challenges including loneliness, fear, and panic attacks. But you are not alone. Find people who will be by your side and help you through it.

Keep a journal

Even if it seems strange, this may be able to assist you in learning how to overcome emotional addiction. You could miss the individual frequently and want to return to them due to the addiction.

A journal will serve as a written record of your reasons for ending the relationship at such times. It will encourage you in getting in touch with yourself and establishing a clearer image of your own objectives and dreams while also serving as a helpful reminder of why you shouldn’t go back.

Engage in interesting things

You’ll feel like you’ve lost yourself when you remove yourself from the relationships that have consumed all of your time and energy lately. If that’s the case, you should look for something that gives you a sense of community.

Look into your possible interests and determine what drives you. If you encounter such things, think about setting aside time to work on them and engage in your interest. Set your own objectives and concentrate on bettering yourself.

Go to the gym, pick up a new activity, or take vacations. You must prioritize yourself if you want to notice changes within yourself.

Thanks for reading my article. To read more on relationships, love, mental health, and life lessons you can follow my writings.

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Manushvi Nithyanandan

I Write to Captivate, Inform, and Inspire. Check my posts on @manushvibz