Why curating your Instagram feed is a spiritual intervention Want some free coaching? Stop following coaches on Instagram, myself included. Maybe even some therapists. Wellness influencers especially. Unfollow the fitness gurus, the keto nazis, the feminine intuition guides, the financial sages, the weight loss coaches, anyone merchandising your self-betterment. I want to be clear — I don’t take issue…

Why striving for self-improvement is part of the problem. — Before I step on my soap box I want to go on the record here: I’m totally in support of self-betterment. I’ve devoted my career to it, and I’m pretty sure I single-handedly supported the self-help industry through my mid-twenties. I firmly believe the cultural surge in wokeness, mindfulness, meditation…

Challenging misogyny one compliment at a time — Alright ladies, it’s time we get some discipline in the area of accepting compliments. Yes, boastfulness is woven throughout our culture’s narrative and as Americans, our international reputation is basically an arrogant cartoon. But for most American women, real confidence doesn’t actually come easily. …

5 clinically-based practices for 2021 that require no crystals whatsoever. — Instagram’s New Age self-help content can be a dangerous rabbit hole for would-be manifesters. It’s riddled with grandiose yet vague promises of 2021 blessings, emphatic assurances that you’ll soon be stepping into your Next Level Self, and some very enthusiastic affirmations (“I AM OPEN TO RECEIVING A LARGE SUM OF…

It’s not about wallowing or self-care — it’s about paying attention — “Sit with your feelings” is the lukewarm, nebulous buzz phrase we’ve all been hearing a lot lately. We hear it from our therapists, we hear it from mental health columnists, we hear it from yoga influencers showing off their smoothie bowls. Last week, I’m pretty sure I heard the Amazon…

The trickle-down effect of mental illness. Notice how your anxiety is spiking lately? Don’t worry, it’s not just you, this is happening on a cultural level — it’s raining anxiety and everyone’s getting wet. Big picture, it’s because we have a narcissist sitting in the highest office in the land. Not just any old flavor of…

Advice from a former bulimic — Eating Disorders, chronic dieting, compulsive exercise and self-destructive behaviors around food are complex, nuanced, and ferocious (the 12 step world captured it best with “cunning, baffling and powerful.”) But before I dive in, allow me to establish a little credibility around this topic. I’ve been in recovery from my own…

And why it took me so long to stop — I was 29 years old — old enough to know better — and I stood in the blue corner of the ring with my heart pounding and my gloves taped to my wrists. My headgear muffled the voice of my coach and the shouting crowd, though I couldn’t have heard…

It’s possible to hold yourself accountable with compassion — A few days ago, I was sitting at the piano. It had been a while. I used to play pretty regularly, but these days I’m not what you’d call a musician. …