Published inHuman Parts·Aug 11, 2021Member-onlyPerfectionism Is Anxiety Masquerading as DisciplineWhy it’s time to stop fetishizing achievement-oriented pathology — As a recovering perfectionist, I feel the need to call a spade a spade — perfectionism isn’t a virtue. Somewhere along the line, we put it on the cultural pedestal and never looked back. …Mental Health2 min readMental Health2 min read
Published inAn Idea (by Ingenious Piece)·Mar 27, 2021Member-onlyUnfollow for AwakeningWhy curating your Instagram feed is a spiritual intervention Want some free coaching? Stop following coaches on Instagram, myself included. Maybe even some therapists. Wellness influencers especially. Unfollow the fitness gurus, the keto nazis, the feminine intuition guides, the financial sages, the weight loss coaches, anyone merchandising your self-betterment. I want to be clear — I don’t take issue…Social Media4 min readSocial Media4 min read
Published inMind Cafe·Mar 5, 2021Member-onlyBe Your ‘Okayest’ SelfWhy striving for self-improvement is part of the problem. — Before I step on my soap box I want to go on the record here: I’m totally in support of self-betterment. I’ve devoted my career to it, and I’m pretty sure I single-handedly supported the self-help industry through my mid-twenties. I firmly believe the cultural surge in wokeness, mindfulness, meditation…Self Improvement4 min readSelf Improvement4 min read
Published inInvisible Illness·Feb 24, 2021Member-onlyThe Power of Saying Thank YouChallenging misogyny one compliment at a time — Alright ladies, it’s time we get some discipline in the area of accepting compliments. Yes, boastfulness is woven throughout our culture’s narrative and as Americans, our international reputation is basically an arrogant cartoon. But for most American women, real confidence doesn’t actually come easily. …Feminism4 min readFeminism4 min read
Published inMind Cafe·Jan 11, 2021Member-onlyA Skeptic’s Guide to Manifestation5 clinically-based practices for 2021 that require no crystals whatsoever. — Instagram’s New Age self-help content can be a dangerous rabbit hole for would-be manifesters. It’s riddled with grandiose yet vague promises of 2021 blessings, emphatic assurances that you’ll soon be stepping into your Next Level Self, and some very enthusiastic affirmations (“I AM OPEN TO RECEIVING A LARGE SUM OF…Manifestation9 min readManifestation9 min read
Published inHuman Parts·Oct 30, 2020Member-onlyWhat Your Therapist Means When They Ask You to ‘Sit With Your Feelings’It’s not about wallowing or self-care — it’s about paying attention — “Sit with your feelings” is the lukewarm, nebulous buzz phrase we’ve all been hearing a lot lately. We hear it from our therapists, we hear it from mental health columnists, we hear it from yoga influencers showing off their smoothie bowls. Last week, I’m pretty sure I heard the Amazon…Mental Health6 min readMental Health6 min read
Aug 12, 2020Member-onlyTrump is America’s Unstable DadThe trickle-down effect of mental illness. Notice how your anxiety is spiking lately? Don’t worry, it’s not just you, this is happening on a cultural level — it’s raining anxiety and everyone’s getting wet. Big picture, it’s because we have a narcissist sitting in the highest office in the land. Not just any old flavor of…Politics4 min readPolitics4 min read
Published inInvisible Illness·Jul 23, 2020Member-only5 Tips For When Your Loved One Has an Eating DisorderAdvice from a former bulimic — Eating Disorders, chronic dieting, compulsive exercise and self-destructive behaviors around food are complex, nuanced, and ferocious (the 12 step world captured it best with “cunning, baffling and powerful.”) But before I dive in, allow me to establish a little credibility around this topic. I’ve been in recovery from my own…Eating Disorders4 min readEating Disorders4 min read
Published inHuman Parts·Apr 30, 2020Member-onlyThings I Learned Getting Punched in the FaceAnd why it took me so long to stop — I was 29 years old — old enough to know better — and I stood in the blue corner of the ring with my heart pounding and my gloves taped to my wrists. My headgear muffled the voice of my coach and the shouting crowd, though I couldn’t have heard…Life Lessons13 min readLife Lessons13 min read
Published inHuman Parts·Apr 27, 2020Member-onlyA Meditation on Not Being a Dick to YourselfIt’s possible to hold yourself accountable with compassion — A few days ago, I was sitting at the piano. It had been a while. I used to play pretty regularly, but these days I’m not what you’d call a musician. …Life Lessons5 min readLife Lessons5 min read
