Maybe you only need to change your lens

Olanike Akinyemi
2 min readOct 21, 2022

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For about 2 weeks, I’ve been anxious and unsatisfied with almost every area of my life. A particular area of my life was weighing me down, and it was all I could think about. I moped about my house and work daily with it weighing on my mind. Like a rotten fruit, it gradually spread to every area of my life. It bothered me so much that I wrote about it in my last post on here.

I spoke with my siblings about the same thing almost everyday, complaining bitterly. I do wonder how they never got tired of my complaints and I felt a tad guilty because I know they most likely had their own worries to deal with.

Anyways, the rot got so deep that I lost all my joy. As a naturally happy person, I felt shrivelled and wondered where all my joy had gone. It made me more miserable and I kept going in circles.

Then, I had a shift in my spirit. As a Christian, I had to settle it in my quiet place with God before physically facing my dilemma.

I gradually shifted my focus from my pains to my blessings and the things which give me joy. It sounds cliché when people say it, but I practised it and it worked!

I focused more on the little things and the not-so-little things which gave me joy. The pain point still existed, but it didn’t feel so painful at that point. Now I feel lighter. I have finally gotten a library fitted into my room, and that’s a reminder to read more hard copies which I love doing. I am happy about that. I have started writing again. I am happy about that. I have been able to see clearly enough to draw a roadmap for my life. I am happy about that. I see a beautiful reflection of me in the mirror daily, and it convinces me that I have a perfect smile. I AM HAPPY ABOUT THAT.

What is my message for you today? Change your focus intentionally. There will always be problems. change your lens and look at the beautiful things that exist outside of it. Then you will find out the pr0bl€m had only been magnified by your constant rumination on it. You will feel relieved. And you will find out there’s always a reason to be happy and grateful.

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Olanike Akinyemi

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