Why People Give Up on their Goals

Pedram Dara
3 min readJun 7, 2016

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Sooner or later most people are going to give up on their goals.

Giving up is caused by a couple of different reasons. You either give up because of the lack of patience or because of having the wrong goal.

It’s OK to give up if you realize you’ve been chasing the wrong goal. That’s the only good form of giving up that could save you time and energy.

It takes an enormous amount of hard work to achieve anything worthy in this life. And if you’re not willing to wait for, it’s time to check your priorities.

You have limited resources like time and energy and it’s best to spend them on something that keeps you up at night.

It’s much harder to give up on a goal you care so much about that you are willing to lose your sleep.

Even if you know you’re going after the right goal, having patience is going to make all the difference.

Perseverance is the main reason for why some people have more success than others. They are willing to wait for what they care about.

But it’s harder to persevere with your efforts if you don’t have the right plan and strategies to achieve your goals.

Working hard is good but working smart is better. To achieve your goals, you need more than work ethic. You need three Ps: passion, plan, and patience.

If you are not super passionate about your goal, you will give up. You must LOVE the journey as much as the end results.

Once you have everything you need to go after your important goals, it’s time to find the people who can help you get there faster and easier.

No matter what your goals are, there are other people who have already achieved them.

It’s easier to give up when you don’t have a model you can follow. By finding those people, you can get inspired and motivated but you can also learn the strategies they used to achieve those goals.

Even if you have all the pieces of the puzzle, it’s still hard to stay on track with your goals. So a good solution for that is having an accountability partner.

When more people are aware of your goals, you’ll feel a responsibility that will help you keep going but it will also give you the support you need.

You could give up easily when you feel you’re alone. Having a circle of support would help you get through the hard times.

By surrounding yourself with the people who also have the same goal, you minimize the risk of giving up too early. You get to learn from their experience and you may even help each other get there faster.

Unless you’re 100% sure that you’re chasing the wrong goal, giving up in most cases is not your best option. Good things take time and you need to realize that before you move on to do something else.

I hope this has helped you find a way to not give up and keep working on your goals so you can live a life that you’re proud of.

I wrote this piece as part of a 90-day challenge I took on to get better at this type of writing. To learn more about me you can visit my website here.

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Pedram Dara

Product, Marketing, Operations 💚 Advocating for mental health, psychedelic medicine & healing trauma ☞ Building a new platform to help PTSD patients