I, Solitude, Come Bearing Gifts!
So many people feel alone and lonely. Do you feel like an island even in the midst of activity and people in your life? Or do you feel lonely because there’s barely even one person in your life?
When we don’t understand aloneness and solitude as a gift, it leads to the syndrome called loneliness.
Just the other day a friend was telling me about how alone she felt — that she had no one to talk to. Why would she say that when was obviously talking to me in frequent conversations? She interacts with lots of people every day so how could she still feel so alone and lonely?
It must be a matter of how we feel within ourselves. It has nothing to do with outside people.
I remember having lots of friends and still feeling like an island. I didn’t realize at the time that how I felt was all about me, not them.
My feelings came from my how I was choosing to live and who I thought I was. And to get yourself to a place where you feel like an island, you’ve had to have entertained some very disempowering beliefs.
Maybe loneliness is a result of not getting right with ourselves. We haven’t yet come to love ourselves and feel satiated with that love. And so no matter how many people we engage with we still feel alone. That’s what it was for me.
Loneliness and aloneness are not the same thing.
Aloneness is our very nature, but we are not aware of it. Because we are not aware of it, we remain strangers to ourselves, and instead of seeing our aloneness as a tremendous beauty and bliss, silence and peace, at-easeness with existence, we misunderstand it as loneliness. — Osho in Love, Freedom, Aloneness: The Koan of Relationships¹
A lot of us can’t even be alone with ourselves in our own homes without feeling a darkness closing in. I’ve had that experience too.
Many choose partners, any partner, just so they can have someone else in the house and not feel alone. They’ll put up with arguments and fights as long as they don’t get left alone and lonely.
Some people are so afraid of having to go through life alone they hope they die before their partner.
In Love, Freedom, Aloneness,¹ Osho says:
Aloneness has a beauty and grandeur, a positivity. Loneliness is poor, negative, dark, dismal.
Elderly people tend to be alone. Many of their friends and family have died. They no longer feel like making the effort to build new relationships. And so their empty world closes in on them. Their anger derives into intolerance, worry and even hate and spitefulness.
We have to stay on our toes with ourselves. It’s damaging to leave certain beliefs, attitudes and behaviors unchecked.
By denying ourselves growth and self-transformation, the thing many elderly people are known for happens. Our negative responses to life and being alone dig in. They become so entrenched within us, we become sniveling ugly Scrooges.
Loneliness is a gap. Something is missing. Something is needed to fill it, and nothing can ever fill it because it is a misunderstanding in the first place. As you grow older, the gap also grows bigger. —Osho¹
Look at various elderly people and you’ll immediately know which are merely alone and which are desperately lonely.
The alone ones will still have a certain brightness about them. Lonely elderly will have a dark pallor and to use Osho’s word, they’ll look dismal.
It’s important to understand aloneness for the gift that it is before loneliness overtakes us and without our even realizing.
In the Gospel of St. Thomas, Jesus said:
Blessed are the solitary and elect, for you shall find the kingdom.
We often develop relationships based on need and the fear of not being able to survive rather than on simple pure love.
You’ll only feel utterly alone and lonely if you buy what certain others want you to believe — that you’ll not survive without them. Groups like religions want you thinking this way.
It’s true that being in a group, having numbers, can help ensure your survival. But when you realize your survival and ability to thrive doesn’t actually depend on other people…
Now. You. Are. Free.
Only people who don’t understand who they are will need others in order to survive. When you know you are God, it isn’t even in question.
I have always been taken care of. And I will always be taken care of.
Make that your mantra. If you don’t exactly believe it now, soon you will.
As human beings, we naturally love to share our joys, challenges and triumphs with each other. It’s when our relationships are based on need and neediness that they limit what we could be.
Afraid of being alone in old age, potential loneliness is a reason some people have children.
That’s a selfish motivation, don’t you think? And limiting, too.
It means that person doesn’t intend to grow or venture beyond what they’ve experienced in life so far. And he or she will end up lonely anyway because no other person can ever fully satisfy another’s needs.
Distractions aren’t a cure for feeling lonely. They only delay our growth.
Glued to the television or mobile phone apps all evening long, many of us use them to avoid becoming intimate with ourselves.
Television and the tablet are the great babysitters I always say. They’re used to distract both children and adults alike.
Yes, they have their place in this world. But when anything is done in excess or for the wrong reasons, it doesn’t add to our lives. It detracts. It only delays our inevitable quest for growth, postponing it for other lifetimes.
Dramas of life are distractions, too. When we keep getting caught up in them, we’re learning from them, yes. But we’re postponing diving into even greater learning and self-discovery.
Sometimes we really and truly do just need to be alone.
Now let’s take this even higher: You’re never really alone.
There’s an old adage saying you came into this Earth alone and will leave alone. That’s a very myopic view.
No one really comes in alone. And no one leaves alone either.
All That Is Divine is arrayed for us at all times, always by our side, always waiting for our invitation.
But if you do feel terribly alone and lonely, call out to your Creator.
Call on the Divine Names: God the Infinite, Christ I Am, Holy Spirit, Archangel Mikal. And you will be immediately endowed with cosmic rays of Love and Wisdom.
Turn to the great Beings of Light who patiently wait to give you instruction. They’re waiting for you to say, Come in.
Go beyond your physical five sense perceptions. In the gift of your aloneness, get quiet and open yourself to receive.
Communicate directly with the most constant most elevated companions you could ever have. Your consciousness will expand and with it, any loneliness you had will be banished.
I’m not just writing pretty words here. I only write from personal experience.
These beings, your new companions, will increase you to the point you’re able to self-generate a great deal of your expansion. You can’t possibly feel lonely then.
Instead, your life will be full and energetic. And because you’ve let go of the past and self-imposed limitations, you won’t have a moment for a pity party.
All you’ll want to do is revel in your happiness and in the fullness of your life — even if there’s barely one other person in it.
Dance your aloneness, sing your aloneness, live your aloneness! — Osho
¹ Osho. Love, Freedom, and Aloneness: The Koan of Relationships. United States, St. Martin’s Publishing Group, 2002.
Purusha Radha
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