The Worst Dating Advice You’ll Ever Hear
Thrashing out the most common piece of advice that might be keeping people single.
Love will come to you when you least expect it. Really? Let’s be logical.
Have you ever tried signing up for three or four dating apps?
Have you lined up 3–4 dates in a week?
Attend every social gathering to put yourself out there and still ended up with no luck.
Then, you decide to share the frustrating experience with your friends, colleagues, and family and they tell you to stop pursuing love.
They walk the extra mile to convince you that if you relentlessly pursue something, the further it runs away from you.
Then they drop the classic line, Love will come to you when you least expect it.
If you’re sailing in this boat, then this article will be helpful.
To achieve success in anything in life, you need to make an effort. Set the ball rolling, regardless of whether it’s smart work or labor-intensive work. Taking breaks, slowing down, or giving up leaves you in the back seat.
People that decide to show up every day end up taking your highly coveted seat and having you wishing you hadn’t give in to self-doubt, fear, or challenges. In return, jealous people end up calling them ‘lucky’.
It is a great trait to have a try-hard attitude, but in some situations, you should not allow this motivator to show up.
In the corporate world, you’re more likely to get promoted and rewarded if you have a boss or organization that acknowledges your drive.
To be effective in dating, however, try to adopt a more unpretentious attitude. This doesn’t mean you’re giving in to the ‘letting love find you’ chronicle.
It means taking a claws-off approach when trying to find your significant other without coming off as desperate and aggressive.
Love will never come to you when you least expect it. You have to make the necessary steps for it to find you.
Let’s take for instance the following scenario.
If you’re house hunting, you need to visit the neighborhoods you’d like to purchase or rent out your home in.
Find the right prices, figure out its drawbacks, or interesting facts about the neighborhood or house plan.
The same rule applies to dating.
It’s impossible to meet ‘The One’ when you regularly stay indoors and hang out in places where your type will never appear.
Staying in your current unhealthy relationship also sends a message that you’re taken. Therefore, interested partners will keep pursuing other people.
Your goal should be to make it clear from the get-go.
Here are 2 steps to opening yourself to the world:
1. Try online dating.
If you’re on one but still can’t seem to find your match, join another one. This increases your chances since the dating pool will be wider.
Try matching with locals or international people. You never know. Cast your net wide and communicate your desired outcome.
Take precautions and always let your friends know when your location. Drink as many coffees as you want, have lunches or brunches as you want, but always inform them.
Some strangers may have ill intentions.
2. Attend Social Gatherings.
Try getting out of your comfort zone. You will only be seen if you put yourself out there.
Practice positive self-talk and avoid negativity or conclusions based on previous experiences.
Seek discomfort to find comfort.
Mr. or Miss Right won’t come knocking on your door.
Don’t forget, Cinderella had to attend a ball to meet her soulmate.
Understand that not every dating experience is going to be positive. You need to master the art of managing your emotions and pushing through failure.
You should pay little attention to those who try to discourage or instill fear in you.
Your partner may be ONE coffee, swipe, or conversation away.
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