Never Date Someone Who Does These 3 Things
Raise your Bar.
We all crave romantic relationships at one point in our life.
Desperation, fear of missing out, or running out of time may lead us to partners with wrong or unclear intentions.
We fail to evaluate our partner’s suitability or compatibility during the friendship and courtship stages.
Dating someone is a significant life decision that shouldn’t be taken lightly.
When choosing a life partner, you’ll probably spend a lifetime together, therefore, make smart choices.
For whatever reasons or rush in choosing and settling with ‘the one’, make sure your partner doesn’t do these 3 things!
1. They Hate Spending Time With Your Family and Friends
Create situations where your family and friends can get to spend time with you and your partner.
Families are the first contact that helps us navigate through all our relationships in life.
We foster our communication habits, get instilled some important values, and learn about ourselves from our interactions with friends and family.
If you have healthy relationship dynamics, family members can help you pinpoint qualities you may have missed because of your love for him.
Partners that try to make up excuses on spending less time with family, and rarely try to build meaningful connections with their friends will not be good partners moving forward.
It’s expected for a partner to try and put their best foot forward to impress your community.
When you marry a person, you marry their family too.
Also, assess if you like hanging out with his family too if they have introduced you to them.
2. Partners That Are Overprotective of Their Phones
Hiding bank statements, passwords and emails are understandable especially when the relationship is new.
In any given relationship with friends or family, trust is earned not given. Therefore, your partner must exhibit signs that they are principled.
Taking a longer period to evaluate your partner before laying it all out is a smart decision.
- A partner that jumps off his feet and rushes to pick up his phone call in the hopes that you won’t touch it first is hiding something. To add salt to the injury, he answers the call away from you.
- Having their phone face down at all times even after persistent notifications is a MAJOR red flag.
- Strategically angling his phone so you can’t see the person they are communicating with speaks volumes about his character.
From a relationship coach standpoint, this is not a partner you should be walking down the aisle to put a ring to ‘that kind of behavior’.
3. They are Secretive About Their Profession.
As human beings, we take pride in things such as family, interests, beliefs, values, and careers.
It’s normal to find yourself passionately sharing your work drama or career moves with your partner.
However, if this subject doesn’t rise in one of your conversations, then you should be worried.
Working as an undercover agent and doing confidential jobs are things we only see in movies. If this applies in your reality, someone’s ‘playing’ a role in your life.
You need to have an idea of their type of industry, meet his co-workers, and figure out his location.
Tip: Show up with packed lunch at his workplace.
This will put a stamp on whatever stories they might have fed you.
Remember, there’s someone out there for everyone. So do what you have to do to end up on their doorstep.
It’s time you removed that bar on the floor. Don’t settle just because you believe that ‘your partner’ was the best you could do.
You are The PRIZE, act like one by dating people that deserve to be with you.
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