Published inBe Yourself·4 days agoTrust Impermanence — Want the What With No Attachment to the How and WhenThis week is the busiest I’ve had in a while. Normally, when the kids stay with their dad, I take time to catch up with some friends and relish in a bit of solitude. …Beyourself6 min readBeyourself6 min read
Published inBe Yourself·May 22What Is the Urge to Solve Others’ Problems and Give Unsolicited Advice?On my wall I have a reminder that the road to interdependence means that instead of being continually being focused on the wants, needs or problems of others in order to gain approval, feel worthy and/or in control of the outcomes (to avoid dealing with my own emotional pain), I…Beyourself5 min readBeyourself5 min read
Published inBe Yourself·May 15Accepting the Heart of the Mother at the Centre of Your LifeHere in New Zealand, as in many places throughout the world, it’s Mother’s Day. As I receive good wishes and gifts from my own children, and see and hear the delights of such from other friends who are also mothers, along with a beautiful appreciation of my role as a…Beyourself5 min readBeyourself5 min read
Published inBe Yourself·May 8How Do I Know When a Relationship Is Healthy?I know this sounds like an easy question, but as someone who has often accepted far less from relationships of every kind than I should have in my life, I can honestly say it’s actually a very strange sensation to develop healthy relationships at first. …Beyourself4 min readBeyourself4 min read
Published inBe Yourself·May 2Here Is a New Paradigm — Ask “Is This Good Enough for ME?”For those of us who tend to worry about what others think, whether we will or have upset someone, whether the work we have done is or was or will be good enough, whether we are, in fact, good enough in ourselves — whether we are worthy, deserving beings of…Beyourself5 min readBeyourself5 min read
Published inBe Yourself·Apr 24Is It Time to Really Embrace, Enjoy and Embody Your Sexual Truth?“Having clear boundaries means that we are in touch with the healthy, loving part of ourselves to know what does and does not work for our higher good, and to choose accordingly.” ~Michael Mirdad Over the last few years I’ve been doing a lot of work around boundaries, identifying my…Beyourself8 min readBeyourself8 min read
Published inBe Yourself·Apr 18Trust That It’s Absolutely Okay to Not Know Where You’re GoingI have spent many years of my career doing what others saw as useful in me, rather than what I wanted to do myself. …Beyourself6 min readBeyourself6 min read
Published inBe Yourself·Apr 10Which Dimensions of Compatibility Are Most Important to You?I’ve been having some beautiful conversations this week on compatibility in relationships and some major insights into my own drivers and patterns that have — until now — led me towards some very incompatible partners. As I talked about in How to Make Home a Happy Place Where You Are…Beyourself6 min readBeyourself6 min read
Published inBe Yourself·Apr 1How to Make Home a Happy Place Where You Are Loved, Supported and EncouragedI was drawn by a simple exercise this week, when asked “What did it feel like to be at home (in childhood) and what did it feel like to be around your siblings and parents growing up?” …Beyourself6 min readBeyourself6 min read
Published inBe Yourself·Mar 27When Life Sends You Love Go Follow Your DestinyI have been reading Florence Grace by author Tracey Rees, a saga set in the Victorian era. Someone who endorsed it said “the whole book feels so very wise, as if it contains half the answers to life”, I concur, it really did feel like that. …Beyourself5 min readBeyourself5 min read
