Top 3 Tips for Parenthood
Parenting is a journey of multiple mixtures of emotion. It consists of endless excitement about things you want to do with the newborn and endless things that scare you with your newborn. Most of the time we are scared, it’s because we aren't sure if it’s the right thing to do. Are we supposed to feed our newborn this way? How are we supposed to communicate with our kids? What is the best way to teach our kids about life? There are questions all along the way, often without an absolute answer to all.
Calm and Patience
I can’t stress enough that patience is often the most important factor that contribute to the way we are communicating, teaching, and ways that kids are learning from the parents. WHY? Patience is what allows us to teach our kids with absolute calmness and not freak out about certain things that they have done. Yes, if a kid threw a big soup of bowl or a dish on the floor that creates a huge mess around the kitchen table, the sight would be unpleasant. But there are always at least TWO OPTIONS.
1 - We freak out and starting yelling and correct the kids by saying no, you're wrong, you created a huge mess.
2- Speak in a nicer tone. Hey buddy what did wasn’t nice — you created a mess on the floor and it requires a huge effort for mummy and daddy to clean it up. This way we won’t be able to have dinner together and having fun time later. So maybe next we could be nice and maybe we can have some reward after.
What we did here was providing a calm and patience approach and I have to say it’s not easy and more often the kids know how to flip our switch, but that’s where we understand that’s exactly the mirror image of us when we were young. The question comes down to how we can make a different learning experience compared back when we were a kid.
Discipline
I bet we have seen kids screaming and throwing tantrums in shopping malls, grocery stores, or toy shops. Well, being firm in teaching our young ones what is right and wrong is always a key element that we can never remove ourselves from. Hence by being firm on what’s right and wrong and having a calm and patience mindset to assess the severity that the situation may lead to in terms of the environment that we are in kids character development, and many more. We have the responsibility to guide our young ones on what is right and what's wrong. The question is if this is the best approach to teach our kids certain things, or could I bring the message across to the kids much better if I would have done it the other way and so…
Balance
This is CRITICAL as being calm, patience, and firm on discipline we must often strive a balance of being nice to our kids while being firm on certain issues. We all love our kids more than anything in the world and we only hope the best for them. I believe at some point in our life we may have experienced that one friend who you you thought, “Gosh he’s so spoilt.” This often happens because of the background of the family that is overwhelming the kids with love from young — without creating boundaries for good behavior. Here you might ask? Wait? Isn’t it normal to give 100, 200% of love to all our kids, Well, yes at least I would? But the important factor here is we must strive for a balance in discipline and not caught up in mixing love and discipline, as some basic character development is meant to be built from scratch rather than letting it learn on its own. We are what we are because of our home and social environment and experience that made us who we are, hence we should always treat our young ones with loads of love while ensuring the best possible discipline were done with absolute calm and patience.
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