Fake it, but with a Genuine Heart! (The Ship of Relationship — 3)
The Ship of Relationship 1 — Prevent the Ship of Relationship from Drowning!
The Ship of Relationship 2 — Strengthen the Ship of Relationship!
The Ship of Relationship 4 — Assume, and help the ship sink!
“Don’t fake it till you make it. Fake it till you become it.” -Amy Cuddy
For a deep relationship, some behaviors are favorable and some are not favorable.
Innumerable books promote what Stephen Covey calls ‘personality ethics’ or quick-fix techniques. For example, “10 ways to attract people, 15 ways to influence them, 20 ways to make them work for you.” The techniques are superficial and there is no change in the person!
The concept of ‘character ethics’ calls for a real change in the individual. To connect to a heart and strengthen the ship of relationship, requires a change at a much deeper level, in the attitude. It needs to be shifted to truthfulness, compassion, forgiveness and many other divine qualities mentioned in Bhagavad Gita Chapter 16, the traits favorable for relationship building.
“A door closed is not always locked.”
Lack of such qualities is definitely not a disqualification! But don’t fake it till you make it. That simply won’t persist. Fake it till you become it, is the right paradigm. To imbibe a certain quality in one’s existence, it needs to be faked, but with a genuine desire to cultivate it. Sooner or later, our heart will be visible and if it’s not genuine, it’s over!
So, march ahead, display fake love, fake concern, but with a genuine heart. Soon, it will become part of the self and we will receive the gift of genuine relationship!
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My personal suggestion: Please read the Bhagavad Gita As It Is by HDG A.C. Bhaktivedanta Swami Prabhupada for deeper insights.
