You Are Not Going To Find Your Next Partner Sitting On The Couch
There is much to dislike about the online dating experience. Bad, fake, and old photos. People who can barely spell “psychology” asserting with certainty, and guru like self-awareness, who they are. Sifting through carousels of person after person who does not light your fire. Then there are the meet and greets which can be a mixed bag. There are also the multiple dates you invest in before you are sure one way or another. Online dating can be a truck load of work, but…
…to say that it is not one of the tools in your dating kit, would be too extreme of a position, in my opinion. As it turns out I have met a number of nice women through online dating, and one special one. Where it will go with the special one, I don’t know.
I will concede that there is something special about the meeting of eyes in a bar, a supermarket isle, or anywhere else. Especially when it is followed up with an exchange that leaves you with butterflies and flights of fancy about the future.
I will concede with even greater conviction that if you meet that special person doing an activity that you are both passionate about, that can be a great foundation for the relationship.
After 30 years in a faithful and monogamous relationship, during which I never once approached another woman, I was fairly clueless about everything to do with approaching woman. There were so many mixed emotions, and so much confusion about what I wanted. Like many people, I have those circus event like experiences that we all want to write a book about, but I would not give up this part of my journey for anything. It was the way I first dipped my toes into the dating pool, and I am glad I have this option open to me.
Digital life IS real life, it is part of the world we live in. It has great efficiency and economic utility. It has many problems as well. My advice to all people picking them up from a relationship disappointment is to just get off the couch and start living again. Explore EVERY WAY of meeting people, don’t let online dating consume all your time, and be open to meeting new people for friendships, and just let life happen. Go with the flow and see what happens.
