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He’s Not Perfect, He’s Just Not A Dick
He’s Not Perfect, He’s Just Not A Dick
After a lifetime of looking after everyone else, having someone else take charge is too much of a novelty!
S. L. Finlay
Nov 10, 2021
Why She Won’t Have Casual Sex With You
Why She Won’t Have Casual Sex With You
Fool me once, shame on you…
S. L. Finlay
Apr 12, 2019
How I Broke My Fear of Intimacy (And You Can Too!)
How I Broke My Fear of Intimacy (And You Can Too!)
I could deal with it in this relationship, or the next one. It was up to me.
S. L. Finlay
Oct 20, 2021
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I Am NOT Your Manic Pixie Dream Girl
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When the fantasy version of me living in your head is doing our real relationship harm.
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Mansplain my Love Life, BB
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Scarcity Mindset is in the Way of You Meeting The One
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Emotional Unavailability Comes from Past Trauma
Emotional Unavailability Comes from Past Trauma
Straight facts right here.
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Your Partner Falling from Grace is a Good Thing
Your Partner Falling from Grace is a Good Thing
The pedestal and the person
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Don’t Wait for Them to Return
Don’t Wait for Them to Return
Sometimes the simplest advice is the best you’ll ever receive
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I Got a Blank Space Baby — Or, I’ve Just Got a lot to Give?
I Got a Blank Space Baby — Or, I’ve Just Got a lot to Give?
When Tay Tay taught me about prescriptive relationships
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Connecting with old flames in the worlds longest, hardest lockdown
Connecting with old flames in the worlds longest, hardest lockdown
The universe gave me the push to reach out, and I’m grateful.
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When The Medium Ugly Guy Turns You Down
When The Medium Ugly Guy Turns You Down
He likes you first then is the one to turn you down… he’s medium ugly, guaranteed.
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Let’s Talk About The Thousands of Mr. Wrongs for a Sec
Let’s Talk About The Thousands of Mr. Wrongs for a Sec
Take a walk with me, we’ll check out hotties & talk standards and boundaries!
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It’s Not You, It’s My Emotional Unavailability.
It’s Not You, It’s My Emotional Unavailability.
You’re not attracting emotionally unavailable men because you’re emotionally available, sis.
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The Men Who Orbit Us On Social Media Like We’re Celebrities
The Men Who Orbit Us On Social Media Like We’re Celebrities
My social made him see me as a goddess and I never even knew…
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Bad bitch, dump him.
Bad bitch, dump him.
Tools to help you move on bestie. You’re welcome!
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You’re Nobody Until Somebody Loves You
You’re Nobody Until Somebody Loves You
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Walking Away Doesn’t Have To Be Walking Into The Darkness
Walking Away Doesn’t Have To Be Walking Into The Darkness
When a break-up is an unexpected new beginning
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Where are you giving away power?
Where are you giving away power?
Is purity culture fucking with our sex lives?
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Tarot Cards Made Me Call You
Tarot Cards Made Me Call You
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Carrie Bradshaw Just Needed A Little Self-Love
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Don’t be Nice, be Kind instead
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Staying Positive on Social Media is a Radical Act Right Now
When the kindest thing you can do is to be happy
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