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How to Recover from Trauma
How to Recover from Trauma
To recover from childhood and relationship trauma, follow these steps. We can make progress recovering from codependency on our own.
Darlene Lancer
Jun 3
The Signs and Trauma of Being a Parentified Child
The Signs and Trauma of Being a Parentified Child
Unrecognized trauma can result when a child assumes an adult role due to a parent’s absence, illness, or neglect. Read the signs and effect.
Darlene Lancer
Feb 4
The Benefits and What Recovery and Individuation Look Like
The Benefits and What Recovery and Individuation Look Like
Becoming a mature individual is a life journey and harder when we grow up in dysfunctional families. Read the reasons and signs of progress.
Darlene Lancer
Jan 8
Benefits Discoverable in Therapy
Benefits Discoverable in Therapy
Time helps us let go, but for many, it takes years or never if we don’t change internally. Therapy can yield amazing changes in our lives.
Darlene Lancer
Dec 17, 2023
What is Self-Love Beyond Self-Esteem and Acceptance
What is Self-Love Beyond Self-Esteem and Acceptance
How are self-love, self-acceptance, and self-esteem different? We look for love, yet underestimate the importance of self-love.
Darlene Lancer
Nov 30, 2023
Heal Yourself with Unconditional Love
Heal Yourself with Unconditional Love
“Unconditional Presence to yourself is an act of self-love that is healing and melts away old pain and wounds. Find out how.
Darlene Lancer
Oct 31, 2023
How Our Mother Determines Our Love Life
How Our Mother Determines Our Love Life
It starts with our relationship with Mom as we learn to love, trust, and become an individual. It later impacts our attachment our partners.
Darlene Lancer
Oct 16, 2023
Signs You’re Becoming Authentic
Signs You’re Becoming Authentic
Each time you affirm your true, authentic self, every cell in your body cheers “Yes!” When you negate yourself, it has negative biological…
Darlene Lancer
Aug 24, 2023
Watch Out for These Negative Phrases
Watch Out for These Negative Phrases
Are you aware that you talk to yourself all the time? Self-talk makes a difference in our lives for better or worse. Learn how to improve it
Darlene Lancer
Jul 18, 2023
The Problems of Imposter Syndrome
The Problems of Imposter Syndrome
Have you ever felt like an imposter or fraud? Many people may have this feeling in relationships and at work. Learn why and what you can…
Darlene Lancer
Mar 8, 2023
Healing Trauma and Your Inner Child
Healing Trauma and Your Inner Child
Our “inner child,” coined by Carl Jung, holds our vulnerability, spontaneity, creativity, and trauma. Learn to give it the love we missed.
Darlene Lancer
Feb 19, 2023
5 Steps for Making New Year’s Resolutions that Last
5 Steps for Making New Year’s Resolutions that Last
Do you make resolutions and feel disappointed or guilty for breaking them? Take these 5 steps to reach your goals and make lasting change.
Darlene Lancer
Dec 30, 2022
The Winter Solstice — Christmas as a Time of Rebirth
The Winter Solstice — Christmas as a Time of Rebirth
Today begins rebirth — following the shortest day. Jesus’ birth manifested God incarnate in man. How can our soul manifest that power.
Darlene Lancer
Dec 22, 2022
From Codependent Chameleon to Selfhood: Individuation
From Codependent Chameleon to Selfhood: Individuation
Recovery is a journey of individuation from a codependent chameleon to becoming your true self that you express and protect with boundaries.
Darlene Lancer
Sep 8, 2022
Reply to Codependency’s Detractors
Reply to Codependency’s Detractors
Detractors of codependency fail to understand what it is and the enormous benefits of recovery. Read my reply to a NYT article slamming it.
Darlene Lancer
Aug 10, 2022
Forgiveness in Recovery
Forgiveness in Recovery
Holding anger is poison. We think it protects us and attacks an offender. Forgetting is denial that harms us. Find the middle way to peace
Darlene Lancer
Jul 10, 2022
From False Self to True Self
From False Self to True Self
Many people don’t realize they’re living from their false self, which formed in childhood. Read the signs and how to live authentically.
Darlene Lancer
May 2, 2022
Change Your Beliefs and Change Your Life
Change Your Beliefs and Change Your Life
You may be unaware of many of your beliefs. Yet they govern your thoughts, feelings, and actions. Thus, it’s important to identify them.
Darlene Lancer
Mar 10, 2022
Affirmations for Codependency Recovery
Affirmations for Codependency Recovery
Our beliefs determine our behavior. Adopting these 11 beliefs can speed recovery and change your life.
Darlene Lancer
Jan 16, 2022
How to Be More Present in Your Life
How to Be More Present in Your Life
When you’re present, your soul shines. People notice and pay attention. You communicate your self-worth, that you matter and expect respect.
Darlene Lancer
Nov 3, 2021
The Power of Soul Alignment
The Power of Soul Alignment
Our discontent presses us to change. We resist the challenges that are required and instead deny the yearning to live a soul-centered life.
Darlene Lancer
Oct 10, 2021
8 Steps to Setting Boundaries
8 Steps to Setting Boundaries
Setting boundaries is difficult at first, but becomes easier with practice. Follow 8 steps to feel empowered and liberated from resentment.
Darlene Lancer
Sep 29, 2021
How to Recover from Codependency
How to Recover from Codependency
Recovery is really a process of self-acceptance and self-love. It’s easier said than done because we’re living life through a veil of…
Darlene Lancer
Jul 25, 2021
What and Where is Our True Self?
What and Where is Our True Self?
Our true self is our psychological birth. How does it develop and what happens to it. How can we recover it?
Darlene Lancer
Jul 5, 2021
How to Transform Yourself
How to Transform Yourself
We’re an amalgam of our daily thoughts and actions, but this may not reflect who we really are, our true self. We’re a combination of our…
Darlene Lancer
Jun 2, 2021
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