What To Do When You Can’t Get Over Someone
A blueprint for when a case of the oneitis strikes
Sometimes, we fall deeply for someone we can’t have. Whether it’s an unrequited crush, a person who’s in a relationship, or your ex-partner, it can be a crushing and overwhelming feeling. Cupid is ruthless and spares no-one from his arrows of sorrow.
While I’ve written about why we chase people who don’t want us, this post is for anyone who wants to take action and move on. Sometimes the pain of rejection can paralyze us. There are occasions when we are immobilized by the belief that we can’t move on. I like to think of these situations as cases of “Oneitis” — where we become so invested in one person, our lives grind to a halt, and we lose grasp on reality. No matter how hard we try nothing seems to work, leaving us feeling helpless and indulging in self-loathing.
Fortunately, I have found the blueprint for how to tackle this. The internet is full of idyllic listicles that suggest the ten things you need to do to move on. In my view, the process requires a more in-depth reflection and concrete actions that I am going to share with you now. I promise if you follow this plan as laid out, you’ll not only shed your pain and emotional baggage, but you will also strengthen your self-esteem and self-worth.
