For a long time, I felt a bit confused, trying to understand people who said “there are…
Responding to this letter seeking trans exclusionary, ‘cis-women-only’ spaces
Here in the state of California, a couple of positive legal developments emerged recently that…
I remember the anxious excitement I felt the day the women in my family gave me a makeover. They curled my short hair and sprayed…
Today I went to Optical Underground in San Francisco to pick up the new eyeglasses (pictured above and also on Flickr) I…
We live in a “gender binary” with a prevailing female/male paradigm. For many people, the terms “gender” and “sex” are used interchangeably, which is, actually, incorrect!! This idea has become so common, particularly in…
You may have read some of highly popular posts regarding falsehoods programmers believe about names, time, geography, and addresses. There is also a short list on github regarding gender. In this post I will expand on things assumed to be true about…
I’m what you might call DMAB. It’s an acronym. It’s how kids these days talk about gender. It’s how they talk about identity. And, being Designated Male At Birth has led to some issues for me. I sometimes call it “the lipgloss problem.” Folks always thought of me as a man (and raised me…
I came out as a tomboy at 4. Bisexual at 17. Lesbian at 18. Queer around 22. Genderqueer/non-binary at 24-ish. I’m wrapping up my 26th year and only 3 people out of my 959 Facebook friends — this data seemed to get my point…
I need to get meta with you. I don’t identify as any gender. Also, I’m cheesy. I’m innocent. Internet commenters repeatedly point out that I “act like a girl.” And here’s the thing: I love that comparison. Innocent is not an insult. Innocence and intelligence…
