Gender 2.0

For a long time, I felt a bit confused, trying to understand people who said “there are more then two genders”. Because, biologically…

Responding to this letter seeking trans exclusionary, ‘cis-women-only’ spaces

Here in the state of California, a couple of positive legal developments emerged recently that are of particular interest to people with…

My dentist performs a breast exam

We saw each other for the first time in two decades at our 20th high school reunion. “I mean, you have tits now,” he said.

At concerts, I like to feel comfortable. I have sensory processing disorder and am easily overstimulated by crowds, noise, and lights, so I…

The “trans pride” patch sat in my drawer for weeks after I bought it.

Today I had a performance uptown for a local performance festival. The frustrating thing about being a trans femme performance artist means…

RuPaul once said “we all come into the world naked and the rest is drag.” In thinking about what I wanted to wear, I found that what…

Dealing with family is complicated. I’m not out to my mother but out to my father who refuses to use my name and pronouns. I live a city…

Even When It Means Getting Punched in the Face

The day I decided that I had the right to use the word “woman” in reference to myself was the day I wore a dress and was harassed in public…

I’ve been attracted to ties for a long time, well before I came out as trans. Over the years I’ve put together a collection of…

Here’s the thing: being fabulous doesn’t protect you. Compliments don’t keep you safe. The thing about being a transfeminine person is that…