Hating the Player and the Game
On seeing trans people as human beings — worthy of the same love as cis people — society falls short
As many of my readers know, the dynamics of my marriage took an unexpected turn after I had my gender confirmation surgery. While still married to a woman I love, I had to come to a truth that I had been in denial about since I first came out. That being the truth surrounding sexual orientation; not just mine but my wife’s as well.
I’d always known that I didn’t have binary attractions, but so long as I was wearing the facade of a cisgender man, I hid that truth behind a veil of fake heterosexuality. The whole world bought into it; along with my loved ones. I suppose this is a reflection of what I’d previously written was Collateral Damage; the unintentional destruction we cause by not living authentically as soon as we can.
While I now would consider myself pansexual, I find myself wanting to have the intimate relationships that I would have likely pursued had I simply been born a cisgender female; relationships with men. My wife shockingly accepted this reality when I confessed it months back; it had been something she feared would happen even though I was staunchly in denial. It would seem that her acceptance of this reality came easy now because she too was needing…
