One of the tools I’ve used over the years in for my own growth has been Family Constellations. While often done in groups, it can also be done in pairs, and I’ve had success working this way solo.
originally composed 4 January 2015
Incest sucks. I recommend avoiding it as much as possible. For me, it wasn’t possible, and growing up in an environment in which it’s running rampant in secret flat out…
Have you ever taken laundry out of the wash before it’s gone through the spin cycle? when it’s all entangled, cold, sopping wet, and difficult to disengage. That’s what my heart felt like as I dove into a period where sorting this all out was my full time occupation. I had…
Once I knew what had happened, I started trying different approaches to find out what worked. It took a while to find dancing again, this time Lindy Hop, and reboot some semblance of a social life. I started working as a support tech for Windows 95 — hey, that emotional labor…
I had graduated from college. The bar I went dancing in was closing. There was nothing left for me in Chicago, so I came home.
I slept most of the summer, exhausted from school. I worked a few odd jobs here and there but mostly hibernated and collected myself.
My first two and a half years of college were, socially, more or less a disaster. Upon arriving in Chicago, I went to ROTC indoctrination week, a requirement of my scholarship. Lots of yelling for what seemed like no real point at all…
My very first exposure to dancing was when I was a freshman at Garfield. I saw some other folks doing break dancing, I and I was both fascinated and mortified at the same time. Fascinated because it looked awesome; mortified because the aggressive demeanor was overwhelming to me.
