How Does a Narcissist React When They Realize You’re Now Joyfully Indifferent?

Once you’re aware of the variables, it’s really quite predictable.

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A narcissist’s reaction to your indifference depends on a variety of factors:

• The type of narcissist
• The narcissist’s need for narcissistic supply
• The narcissist’s lack of object constancy and whether you are currently “all good” or “all bad”

While the type of narcissist doesn’t tend to change, their need for narcissistic supply and your status as “all good” or “all bad” is quite fluid. The narcissist you know will slip and slide between the following categories.

Overt narcissist with abundant narcissistic supply who believes you are “all good”

This narcissist is not desperate for narcissistic supply. They won’t take radical action.

They do see your value and want to benefit from it — your ideas, advice, connections. And they see you as a valuable backup source of narcissistic supply, should they need it in the future.

This narcissist may also really enjoy the challenge of getting your attention again. Being of value, you’re worthy of their time…