How I Sacrificed My Social Life And Improved Myself
Why you should focus on yourself and not pleasing others.
A long time ago, my main focus was making friends. I thought it was the most necessary thing in the world. But I was wrong. In this article, you’ll learn why social life isn’t that important and how you can avoid the mistakes I made.
I used to care a lot about other people’s opinions. And that’s why I was one of those that wanted to be friends with everyone. I didn’t have any goals, and I didn’t do anything to improve myself.
It took me a while to understand that nobody really cares about you. But once I did, it changed my life completely. I set my goals and made plans. I talked about them in my article How I improved my life in a year with self-discipline, be sure to check it out.
I realised that you don’t need a lot of friends. There’s so much more to life that you can do alone or with a couple of friends. So once I stopped being the first to text or initiate a conversation, I started losing contact with many people. It was a surprise at first, but soon it became clear that most of my friends were fake. I distanced myself from those people and found my real friends.
“You don’t need a lot of friends, just the right ones.“
I found a friend group of like-minded people. People that improve themselves and don’t chase fake friendships. People that do things that are right for them and the ones they love. If you want to improve your life, you must find those kinds of people, the ones that work towards their dreams.
“The people you choose to associate with determine a lot of where you are going in life.”
-Steve Harvey
Since I chose to improve my life, I stopped going out and used the time to work towards my goals. One day at a time, I would come closer to achieving them. There were times I would feel lonely, but I remembered my priorities. I wanted to succeed in life. I kept that in my mind and used it as motivation to go through those lonely nights.
I didn’t talk to people that much. People at my school thought I was weird because of that. They used to think I wasted my time just like they did. They thought I was ordinary, but I knew I wasn’t. I worked on myself and didn’t make any excuses. I didn’t tell anyone about my goals and plans. I knew they would only ruin them.
“Wise Men Speak Because They Have Something To Say; Fools Because They Have To Say Something”
-Plato
This way, I found my inner peace. And I value it a lot. I won’t let some degenerate lazy people ruin it. I know what I am and what I do, so why would someone else’s opinions bother me?
“Time is like a river made up of the events which happen, and a violent stream; for as soon as a thing has been seen, it is carried away, and another comes in its place, and this will be carried away too.”
-Marcus Aurelius
Don’t be afraid of being alone. You have to be your own biggest fan. You’ll find happiness, and you’ll be comfortable being lonely. That’s when the best work is done. If you can enjoy being alone, you can do anything.
Distance yourself from people for a while. Go into monk mode and use that time to work towards your goals. Don’t make excuses. Discipline yourself. You’ll improve drastically.
In order to succeed, you need to make some sacrifices. One of them is your social life. Trust me, going out and partying is a waste of time. If you would stop and use that time to work on something, who knows what you could achieve?
“Until we have begun to go without them, we fail to realize how unnecessary many things are. We’ve been using them not because we needed them but because we had them.”
-Seneca
Find the discipline to be consistent, and you’ll achieve your goals. If you want to learn more about self-discipline, check out my article on Mastering Self-Discipline.
I hope this article sparked the fire in you. Be the best version of yourself. If you want to start your self-improvement journey, check out my articles on Self-improvement and Emotional Intelligence.
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